Let's Talk About Money!
Let's Talk About Money!
Let's Talk About Money!
As humans we have to have two healthy relationships with non-human tools; Money and time. If we are in a poor relationship with either form our lives suffer. Money is a necessary tool we all need to make our lives work. Money does not bring happiness but it does bring freedom and security. When we are low on money we are low on security. When we lack security we get into intense feelings of fear. These fears impact identity, relationships, marriages, and our children.
The fear of money is not the fear of some “thing” but rather the fear for our “basic survival.” Nothing is more frightening than that. Money is a kind of an externalized immune system. If we are low on white blood cells our health is at risk, if we are low on money our security is at risk. So, if money is an externalized immune system how come so many of us live excessively, live beyond our means, do not save, and spend as if everything we want is an emergency…especially those new pair of shoes.
Just as many of us do not take care of our health: we eat poorly, drink too much, smoke etc; many of us also do not take care of our finances. It is as if we do not have respect for the money in our lives, we feel as we never have enough, we deserve more, and thus we begin to get more excessive in our habits. Excessive energy is low frequency, it taxes the immune system, and life becomes an emergency of wants. Fact, money runs out. It is a never ending cycle. If you are currently low on money what is your lesson? If is not happening “to” you but it is happening “for” you, what can you learn from your current financial situation? We cannot know wealth until we know poverty. Think about that.
Solution: If your financial situation has changed for the worse, examine your past relationship with money and see what you need to change about yourself going forward. Talk about these changes with your significant others so they can also help create new change. Did you respect your money because I know that if you respect money, money will respect you in return. Were you thankful for your money? If not, try gratitude. Did you organize your money? Did you save your money? How did money make you feel? When you had plenty of money were your comfortable with your spending habits, or could you have been more respectful.
If we lose our money we enter into a new ‘life class’ regarding finances. If you are in this place it is time to slim down all excessive habits and live in humility. This is a discussion to be had with your family, your spouse, your company etc. Learning to live slim has great value because you are able to see what in your life has value. Slimming down is sometimes like ‘clearing clutter’ of excess needs or desires. How slim can you live? Can you still find happiness while living slim. Can you love yourself the same in a simple car? Do you have the same value weather you drive a BMW or a Honda? If not, why not? What can you learn about life, yourself, your family when you slim down?
Excessive is low frequency. Abundance is high frequency. It is an internal feeling about self-worth that is not dependent upon the outside world. When we slim down we can become abundant. Begin to remain open to new financial ideas, opportunities and ways of living that are without excess. If you live with abundance you will pull abundance to you. Your outer world will mirror your thought world. If you live in fear and lack you will get fear and lack. People who succeed remain persistent in their hard work and their belief that the ‘money will come’ and eventually it does. If you have lost a job or are in debt what can you do to change your circumstances? First, delegate out. A wise man has many delegates. Gather those resources that feel right to you and utilize them. Whether that is debt consolidation, taking out a loan to keep your business operating, or just plain old cutting back, call those in who can support you.
I firmly believe that anything that is out of balance in life will come to a termination so we can recalibrate, start over and evolve to a higher level of balance. There was a study on two groups of people. One group wrote down goals and one group thought about their goals. Those who wrote their goals down achieved their goals 4x over and those who thought about their goals did not achieve even a third of their list. Their goals remained in the state of a wish. A wish is only potential. If you want to change your financial situation write down what you want to change, share ideas with those who can support you and ask for their input and collectively start along your achievement path to abundance. Find a place to begin this new program, waste no time, and START!!
Little life message: Change your mind about money. In your ‘slim-times’ recognize how abundant you are and be grateful to be getting the chance to detoxify all excessive habits. Abundant feelings, lead to abundant thoughts, which pulls you money.