The Science Behind Why People Cheat (And How To Stop It)

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Why People Cheat And How To Stop Adultery
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The science behind cheating and the strength behind not straying.

There’s a popular YouTube video going viral called "The Science of Cheating", which explains in scientific terms the reasons some people are more apt to cheat than others.

With lots of curious scientific terms and talk of why some people are more prone to addictive behaviors than others, the video provides an interesting look at why cheating can provide us with as much pleasure as exercising, eating great food or other pleasurable activities.

It also examines that "once a cheater, always a cheater" mantra that seems so appropriate for some folks who seem to not know how to keep it in their pants or underneath their skirts.

But throughout all the scientific talk, the video does address how cheating on one’s spouse can be a passive aggressive tactic used by cheaters to take some of their power back.

Let’s examine more:

1. Cheating is a means of relief or gaining power

We’ve all probably seen a henpecked man whose wife dictates his every move. Perhaps he’s more of the passive type who, for whatever reasons, allows her to do so.

By dictating his friends and micro-managing his life, the nagging wife may have believed she’s won the war of never letting a man control her. In actuality, she could be sending him straight into the arms of another seemingly kinder and more understanding woman. 

The same holds true for a wife who feels too dominated by her husband. If the husband continues to lay down the law to his less confrontational wife instead of listening to her needs for more real conversation and romance, he could also unwittingly send her into the bed of another man.

2. You can stop the affairs before they start — or after

The most common refrain that marriage counselors hear in the wake of an adulterous affair is that the affair made the cheater feel "alive." 

Adultery can seem exciting at first, and Showtime’s "The Affair" is a popular and brilliantly saucy TV show. But the Bible likens a man scooping another man’s wife onto his lap as an act akin to scooping fire onto his own lap, in the beautiful way Scripture brings imagery to life.

Imagine the consequences and think of a better path. That, in and of itself is the key to putting the parking brake on an adulterous affair before it begins, or even after it starts: A love psychic might tell a person their affair partner could be the love of their lives, but the Lord alone knows if that’s right.

Stranger things have happened. Some folks have experienced successful marriages even after those unions began in tawdry ways, through adulterous relations, despite what statistics and edicts claim about "the same way you got them is the way you’ll lose them" and the like.

The key involves forgiveness and a contrite heart.

3. Moving forward is always a challenge

So while holier-than-thou types will try and make you believe they’ve never had a lusty thought nor engaged in adulterous affairs, we all know the truth is different.

And that truth can mean a person has considered an affair, engaged in an affair, or has looked down the road and has decided to do better for themselves, their families and their spouses.

Just like when Jesus told the woman caught in adultery to "go and sin no more," God gives us every opportunity to confess our sins, be contrite and trust in Him.

That means hearing his voice when we mess up, heeding it and proving that we're listening to his correction by allowing Him to help us walk the narrow path of righteousness. 

This doesn’t mean looking down our noses at cheaters or other sinners, but it means we're thankful that love does indeed covers a multitude of our sins and that we see the benefits of avoiding adultery every day.

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