Should Money Be A Consideration In Divorce?

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Does he who makes the biggest salary hold all the power? Not always...

Lately I've been thinking about the subject of money as it relates to marriage, especially when couples discover that trouble arises in their relationships or fear that they're heading towards divorce. Sure, things might sound all lovey-dovey and good in the beginning during the throes of passionate meeting and amore, but what happens if the inevitable changes of life shift the balance of power in the union?

Let's say you meet a handsome rich man on Millionaire Match, whereby a 20-something-year-old lady finds a man who seems to be the wealthy paramour of her dreams. Over the years they might get married, have a couple of kids and settle down.

Of course, plenty of marriages turn out just fine, and by the grace of God alone, the couple weathers all storms together and watches their kids grow into fine adults. Even when that big "empty nest" shift happens, married couples that are meant to stay together find themselves using the time to take trips around the world and still enjoy their newfound freedom, family and friends.

However, what about those duos that don't make it? What about the ones that discover that money has played such a huge role in their lives that the financial tool has served as a beacon to bring out larger problems?

Money, Power, Disrespect

Let me explain. A man and a woman might meet at work, both of them feeling like corporate superstars earning their own keep. They marry, and they both decide that the woman would like to become a stay-at-home mom to raise the kids while the man continues on in corporate America, earning the bulk of the household income. That would work swimmingly well if both parties understood that just because the woman stays home doesn't mean she's not contributing big time blessings to the household income.

If the man begins to think he's the only one earning the lion's share of the income—even in those situtations whereby the wife never earned as much as the man nor was as educated as her husband—and treats his mate with less respect than he should, that's a problem.


Almost any court in the land would recognize the contribution that the homemaker wife in that instance contributed to the union—especially if it's a longterm marriage whereby the wife has made sacrifices in order to support her husband's career. So, while on the outset it might appear as though the man has the power because it's his name on those direct deposit checks that make up the six-figure salary, that doesn't mean that his estranged wife would have to suffer the burden of poverty if they broke up. On the contrary, she may end up on the winning side and bring in more income than anticipated.

I'm not talking about gold-digging or scouting out some male just for his income. I'm referring to valid, loving relationships that somehow turn sour—and money becomes a big part of the equation. Therefore, let me leave you with this thought: let's love our spouses to the best of our ability and share, share alike.


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