The premier Remarriage Showcase for Encore Brides will be held in metropolitan D.C. on May 14 at River Creek Club in Leesburg, VA. So, what is this event? Who cares? And, why on earth do remarrying brides need an event just for them? Can't they just go to the multitude of bridal shows and expos that are already out there?
When I was preparing to get remarried, I thought my problems were solved once I found a dressmaker to design the perfect second wedding dress, decided where to seat my husband-to-be's prior in-laws at the reception, and answered my sons' inquiries as to why their dad could not attend the wedding celebration. Not so.
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And, by the way, as a so-called second-time bride-to-be, I ended up figuring out all of these things, but it certainly wasn't easy.
You know the word 'change?' Not as in "changing" what you are going to wear or seating arrangements, but as in dramatically changing the lives of seven people, aged 6 to 44, all at once in one house? No wedding planner, etiquette book, or well-meaning philosophical conversation with my fiance', let alone a bridal magazine or show, had prepared me for that.
Thus, the concept for an event specifically tailored for the unique needs of a remarrying bride (or couple!) was born. Here are the top five reasons for attending the Remarriage Showcase for Encore Brides, a bridal event designed for the bride who is marrying for a second (or subsequent) time, otherwise know as encore bride. (Stepmoms-to-be, marrying for the first time would benefit, too!)
1. Here Comes the Bride...Not All Dressed in White. As publisher of RemarriageWorks.com, one of the questions I most often receive is: "What do I wear to my second wedding?" Women who are getting remarried want to know if they can, or should wear white. I can't tell you how many bridal shops I went in to try on second wedding dresses. Dozens of dresses were too long, white, or poufy. Or, they were bridesmaids' dresses that made me feel like I was trying to squeeze into a prom dress again. Or, I looked like I was the mother of the bride when I was years away from that possibility. There are other options, ladies, at the Remarriage Showcase for Encore Brides.
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2. Honey, Don't Forget the Kids. With 65% of remarriages including children, I'm also asked, "How do I include children in our wedding?" At the Remarriage Showcase, you can hear first-hand from encore wedding and stepfamily experts about how to include kids in your wedding, but more importantly, how to navigate kid-related issues that are most likely going to pop up in your remarriage after your wedding day.
3. Problems? Who Says We Have Any Problems? Many of us have heard the dreadful statistics about the divorce rate of second marriages; the rate ranges from 60-70% depending upon which study you read. Soon-to-be stepmothers and remarrying brides tell me they don't want to keep focusing on these statistics. That's fair.