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God Commands Us To Forgive — But Are We Obligated To Forgive Cheaters, Too?!

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What the Bible has to say about your cheating man.

One husband engaged in a long-term affair that resulted in a child. The wife learned about the affair after it had gone on for over ten years.

The husband, who claimed to be a Christian, went forward and confessed sin.

After learning of the affair, the wife realized why their marriage had not grown emotionally, although she had worked hard to make it a success.


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Since her husband was emotionally attached to another woman, it was impossible for the wife to create a true emotional bond with him. She told him they needed to repair the emotional void between them, and make their marriage be what it should be.

Her husband said he'd done everything he needed to do by asking for forgiveness.

He said if problems still existed, they were her problems, not his. He concluded, "You just need to learn how to forgive better."

Repentance involves not only turning one's back on the sinful behavior, but also going forward to embrace righteous behavior.

To please God, it's not enough to say, "I don't commit adultery anymore."

A person must be able to also say, "And I find my sexual fulfillment with my mate" (1 Thess. 4:3-4).


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Repentance is the first step in restoring one's relationship with God and others.

A person must then go through the sanctification process. The apostle Paul says no one knows the thoughts of another person, unless that person tells him his or her thoughts (1 Cor. 2:11).

God reserves the right to judge a person's motives, either for evil or for good (1 Cor. 4:5).

However, God does give us the right to make judgments based on the deeds or fruits of other humans (Matt. 7:20; Acts 26:20).

In other words, God told Christians to not be stupid about professed repentance.

Instead, a person is to examine the sinners' works for a change of attitude and action.

 

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This article was originally published at http://embarrassthealligator.com/. Reprinted with permission from the author.

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