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I'm Addicted To Texting And Here Are 5 Reasons I Can't Stop

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I'm Addicted To Sexting And Texting
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IMO, sexting is the safest form of sex.

Do you ever feel like you're addicted to your smartphone and just can't put it down? I feel that way all the time.

My phone is my dating life. It used to bother my parents — and it probably still does — but now that I'm on my own, I don't really care. And to be honest, I don't think being addicted to it is necessarily a bad thing.  

If you really think about it, it is probably the safest way to date these days.

OK...So, I am addicted to texting! Here's why:

1. Texting is perfect for dating and flirting

Let's face it: flirting is good for your relationship. You can be chatting and sending some flirty messages back and forth without anyone else in the room knowing what's going on. So that's kind of fun and I love doing that (it's possible to be addicted to sexting too).

It doesn't have to take a lot of time either. It only takes me a few seconds to send off a little text to let a girl know that I'm thinking about her.

There's probably not much else you can do in just 5 seconds that can help build your relationship better than sending a quick text to let someone know you miss them and are thinking of them. Yes guys, this really works! Women eat that stuff up. 

2. It helps me connect with friends and co-workers. 

Sending texts also helps me connect with friends, family, and co-workers. I do this both for personal reasons and for work purposes. It's also nice to have a written transcript of conversations like this, in case I ever need to go back and look at what was said.

I text when I'm at work. I text when I'm out shopping and I text when I'm lounging on the couch at home. It's almost a 24/7 kind of thing, but it's good because I'm building relationships and communicating with people.

Some old fashioned people think smartphones are ruining relationships, but I bet my grandpa never spent as much time talking with his friends and family at my age. It might look different, but it's not a bad thing.

3. It keeps me up on what's trending.

I also enjoy getting text and e-mail notifications about trending news items and potential new dates. That's important to me. I don't just want to be connected with individual people in my life. I want to be connected to the whole planet, to specific industries that interest me and to what's happening in the news and in society.

My phone brings it all to my pocket, around the clock. If I have to wait until I get on my laptop at home or wait to hear about it from a friend — that's too long. I want all the latest juice and I want it right now!  

4. I feel good when my phone's blowing up. 

This might sound vain, but I like it when my "Toy Friends" are sending me texts every five minutes! Even though I can't respond to all of them or even read them right away, it just feels good. I don't know. I guess it makes me feel popular.

Is that wrong? I think it's okay.

5. Being connected 24/7 feels safe. 

I love having a back up on speed dial if I need to get rid of a date quick. And I never know when a situation will come up when I'll need cops or an ambulance, so I want my smartphone with me 24/7. I just feel safer that way, even though I've never had that kind of an emergency yet.

If something comes up that I can't handle myself, I can just grab my phone out of my pocket and make a call. Or if I need to keep quiet, I can text for help. I know it sounds kind of dark, but crazy stuff happens in life and you never know if it'll happen to you.

That's why I always keep my phone fully charged and ready to go. I always want to be as prepared as I can for a potential unexpected phone sex call.

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