Female Erotic Energy: A Field Guide


Female Erotic Energy: A Field Guide
How to connect to a woman's subtle erotic energies to bring her pleasure.

1) Continue the eye contact and keep your body still. Moving as slowly as you can, brush her arms with your fingertips barely touching the body hair. Continue to her shoulders, neck, and upper chest. Move your fingers to her face and gently outline her lips, her eyes, her jaw, her outer ears, and then that soft, sensitive spot behind her ears.
2) Lean over and lightly touch your lips to hers. Gently suck first her upper lip and then her lower lip, nibble a bit, and retreat after outlining her mouth with your tongue.
3) Continue your light, slow touch as you move down to her breasts, stroking in a circular motion until you are tenderly teasing her nipples. Lick, suck, and blow if your intuition (or your lover!) suggests.

Now read her body. Does she seem relaxed and comfortable? Is she responsive to your touch? Or is her body asking you for more time and tenderness (foreplay)?


Erotic touch
Add variety, play with arousal levels, spread the energy, and just PLAY.

1) Massage her back. Gently coax your lover to turn onto her stomach and use feather strokes up and down her entire backside. Scratch her lightly with your nails or a dry body brush for sensation diversity, or tickle her with a feather or piece of fur. Massage her back with warm oil, but do not touch her sacrum or buttocks. She will notice your avoidance and wonder… More anticipation!
2) Establish positions. Lightly stroke her thighs and slowly nudge her legs apart by placing your hands on both sides of each leg, using circular massage strokes and greater pressure from the hand on the inside of her leg. Now you have moved her into a vulnerable position, and created a heap more anticipation. Reposition yourself to sitting or kneeling between her legs.

Read her body again. Is she relaxed and responsive? If not, continue with sensual, but non-sexual touch until she seems complete for this evening, and offer her this pleasuring again another night.

To really make this advice work, you need to follow these action steps to complete today's challenge.

Right now, I want you to:

Are you ready to "do it differently"? To join your lover in a new dance of erotic energies? YES!? Decide how you will offer the invitation to your lover. A sexy note on her pillow? A loving card attached to a bouquet of her favorite flowers? Or, you could add mystery by simply requesting her presence on [date/time] and letting her know that "the event will be clothing optional."

Within 7 days I want you to:

Erotic energy thrives on variety, so get prepared with a new massage lotion or genital lube, sensual toys such as a dry body brush, a piece of fur, or a feather duster. Just before your pleasuring time, re-read my suggestions and let them rest gently in the back of your mind. Prepare yourself, and then your "love nest," and enjoy a new erotic experience.

By the end of the challenge I want you to:

Show appreciation to your lover for joining you in this new erotic experience, and ask for her thoughts or suggestions for adding even more creativity. Acknowledge the "gifts" that have appeared—do you feel a greater heart connection? Playfulness? An openness to variety and exploration? And… let her know that sometime you'd love to be the receiver.

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Pam Babbitt

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Pam Babbitt, S.I. Sex & Relationship Coach http://www.SexCoaching.com 888.719.7119

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