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Cunnilingus and Loneliness

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Cunnilingus and Loneliness

As incredible as oral sex may be, many women report that the experience is tinged with loneliness.

Sound strange?

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Here's the scoop:
A woman is lying in the most intimate and vulnerable position receiving intense pleasure, while her lover is waaaay down there, where she can't even see his/her face. Add to that - the overall body contact is minimal.

Disconnect happens, so use whatever means possible to create more physical connection and deepen the emotional one:

Straddle one of her legs to bring your genitals in contact. Use a free arm to wrap around a thigh, or a free hand to stroke her stomach. Or, slip one hand under her pelvis and with palm up place it directly under her sacrum.

Periodically, stop the oral pleasuring and move that erotic energy all the way up her body using long, smooth strokes. Use the palm of your hand to stroke in a circular motion on her abdomen, very slowly - a nurturing technique.

Try hummmming on her genitals and ask for feedback. Chakras love vibrational sound, and her soft, fleshy body parts will likely love the vibrations.

So what about that good ol' '69' position? More body contact, more involvement. Wouldn't that solve the cunnilingus-loneliness issue?

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No. I don't recommend the '69' position and here's why: Oral sex is a very intense, intimate act. Most lovers find it challenging to perform oral sex and enjoy receiving it simultaneously. In the 'doing' you are focused on your performance and on your partner's pleasure, and you will naturally position your body so that you can accomplish that. It is not possible to relax, surrender, and fully experience pleasure at the same time.

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Pam Babbitt

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Pam Babbitt, S.I. Sex & Relationship Coach http://www.SexCoaching.com 888.719.7119

Location: Boulder, CO
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Specialties: Couples/Marital Issues, Dating/Being Single Support
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