What We Can Learn From Rihanna About Relationships

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What We Can Learn From Rihanna About Relationships [EXPERT]
Can the Rihanna/Chris Brown story shed light on your relationship?

Rihanna was recently named by Time Magazine as one of the 100 most influential people on the planet. She's stated that she doesn't want to be a role model, but … well, she's on the list.

There have been continuous reports that she may be rekindling her relationship with Chris Brown despite his well-documented physical abuse of her in 2009. This has created a new round of reflection about her personal life — in particular about how she takes care of herself in her relationships — or doesn'tIs Sex Addiction Just A Myth?

We don't have to live our lives inside the fish bowl that Rihanna does. However, we can allow Rihanna's relationship story to serve us by allowing it to bring attention to our own relationship choices. Why is it that we sometimes stay in (or go back to) a relationship that seems to all level-headed observers to be so very bad for us? Sometimes even our own sensible, level head is screaming at us, "run, baby, run," and we don't. Why not?

There are times when finding the strength and courage to get out of (or not go back to) a bad relationship is vital to our well-being. Having lived through enough relationships to know this piece of the storyline, I understand that it can be difficult to want to see when it's time to go.

That recognition is the last thing you want. Even when you begin to accept the inevitability of the end of the relationship, it can be so very difficult to actually make the transition. "Important Artifacts" From A Relationship [VIDEO]

Some relationships are like humpty-dumpty splattered on the ground. They just cannot be put back together. This can be so hard to see and accept. Often it takes time to acknowledge it. If your partner is acting out in a way that is untenable or unhealthy for you, and he does not want to change, then as hard as it may be, your first step will be to recognize this fact.

There are some very fundamental reasons why we want to stay connected to our intimate partners. In a relatively healthy relationship the power of attachment works like glue to help us stick it out when friction arises.

Every relationship has good parts and bad parts, easy times and hard times, times of harmony and times of discord. As much as we may wish to live in a world without difficulty, the very nature of existence naturally encompasses the entire range of experience. 

We bond with our partners both in ways we see clearly and those we don't consciously understand. We literally become biochemically and physically connected through our partner's touch. Sports Illustrated Swimsuit Models & Your Self Esteem

From a simple functional point of view, we are bound together through our homes, possessions, through children and/or pets (if we have them), and through our finances. Then there is the mystery of the strength of the emotional and spiritual connection.

These are the strings, tendrils, bonds, links that entwine us to our intimate partners. We get all tangled up with each other. The very thought of pulling the connection apart is painful.

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