In Don Miguel Ruiz's book, The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Wisdom, the second agreement is "don't take anything personally." It says, "nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won't be the victim of needless suffering." Sounds hard? Maybe so, but it is actually just a choice. Should You Lie In Your Online Dating Profile?
One of my clients was online when she received numerous emails from a man she did not find attractive. After ignoring several of his emails, she finally told him she was not interested. He emailed her back and was rather nasty. He called her superficial and said that if he was tall, dark and handsome, she would be interested. She was very upset about this interaction. In fact, she lost sleep at night over it.
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This was obviously his problem and had nothing to do with her. She did not even know him. When you don't take things personally, you don't have to suffer. One of the biggest reasons I see online dating failures is because people who have had a few bad experiences, take it personally and give up after just a month or two. What happens when you persevere?
After his divorce was final, Michael was online for a year before he met Sharon. He told me he went out with many women and even got into some short-term relationships. But, no one was a good fit. Although he often felt discouraged when each new woman turned out to be a poor match, he kept trying. He expanded his search criteria and met Sharon who lived in Arizona.
It turns out that she was coming to California for a visit and they ended up meeting. He told me he immediately fell in love with her smile. Since then, she has relocated to Southern California and they are planning their wedding. He was so glad he persevered. He realized that all that dating was just practice for her.
So, go online. Give it a try and practice not taking things personally. What do you have to lose? If 17 percent of marriages are the result of online dating, imagine your internet dating success with the right attitude and the skills to make it work. 18 Sexy Secrets Of Online Dating
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