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• We understand, and felt similar feelings while planning our own wedding. Our suggestion is to make a list of what is important to you, and have your fiance do the same. Write them out separately, and then come together to discuss what you each wrote down. Most likely you will find some things will overlap and some won't. Now you have an idea of what is important for each of you and can discuss what you'd like to create together. Once you've done this you have the vision for the event. Here are a couple books we found helpful in planning a wedding that reflects the two of you and your values: THE ALTERNATIVE WEDDING BOOK published by Northstone (a community of writers so no author on the book, it may be out of print - look for a used copy online). THE SMART COUPLE'S GUIDE TO THE WEDDING OF YOUR DREAMS by Judith Sherven & James Sniechowski Ultimately, once you know what is important to each of you, you can begin to make decisions from that base. It also might be helpful for you to write down things you absolutely do not want. We did not do a bouquet toss and had that on our NO List from the beginning. While planning the wedding we had printed out our top 5 things we desired (or desired to create) and had that visible in our work stations each day so we could see it and be clear on our vision. We only did things we wanted to do. We did not do anything out of obligation to anyone else. With each decision align your choice with the vision you created together. Being in alignment with your fiance and having clear communication is of the utmost importance. Planning a wedding can bring up a lot of tension so remember to speak how you are feeling by taking responsibility for those feelings and BREATHE! Best of luck, Orna and Matthew http://CreatingLoveOnPurpose.com SEE MORE

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• This man is clearly TOXIC! End all contact and all ways he has of contacting you. Yes, change your phone number. If you fear for your safety in any way contact the authorities and file a restraining order. Is this part of a pattern you play out in relationships? If yes, then there is some work for you to do with your relationship with yourself so you can receive the love you desire. Most of us continue to play out the same story over and over again creating what is familiar to us. It is possible to break old patterns so you can have what you desire. Working with a professional who works with the subconscious is the key to ending negative patterns. There is a free audio file you can download at our website: Self Acceptance is The Key to Feeling Loved! Download that at http://CreatingLoveOnPurpose.com Love and Abundance, Orna and Matthew SEE MORE

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• Hi Misstyblue, We are so sorry to hear about this betrayal. Only you can decide if you are able to trust again. We suggest that you take time to really focus on YOU. What you want from the perspective of your true heart's desire (not what your brain thinks is possible). Take actions that make you feel good and focus on feeling good (it is possible). Communicate with your man with FEELING STATEMENTS: I feel ___________. It will be difficult to navigate through this without support - either together or apart. Look to find the support you need right now with a relationship coach or counselor. Love and Abundance, Orna and Matthew http://CreatingLoveOnPurpose.com SEE MORE

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• Please get out of this abusive situation immediately before it escalates even further. Get support! There are many options available that are free and/or cheap to support you. Your safety and the safety of your children is most important. We suggest you do not announce that you are leaving him as he has proven to be volatile. Make a plan, execute it and change your phone number too. Blessings to you, Orna & Matthew http://CreatingLoveOnPurpose.com SEE MORE

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We agree that Porn Addiction is a REAL PROBLEM. The key is communication about the issue in your relationship. And how you communicate is important. Taking responsibility for your feelings and not getting into blame will allow for a healthy dialogue about any issue. We are happy to hear that you and your partner have received help. As a matter of fact, the questions on the page to click above is exactly in alignment with your "new guideline." If anyone believes that there may be a porn or sex addiction issue in their relationship, please contact Dr. Korenna Reynard. Dr. Reynard is a Somatic Sexologist, and an Erotic Educator and specifically works with Porn Addiction. Learn more about Dr. Reynard and her work at: www.drreynard.com and you can email her directly at: korenna@drreynard.com Having clear boundaries in relationship is very important. Certainly, not all women have low self-esteem, and not all men who view porn have an addiction.
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