The Truth About The List...


The Truth About The List...
Does making the proverbial LIST really set you on track to find a relationship?

Take a deep breath! You are on your way to manifesting your Beloved!

Once you have given yourself a score for each item on your List. Review each item that you scored yourself 6 or lower. Ask yourself, “Do I want to cultivate this quality/value within myself? Or would I like to remove this item from my list?”


Your Beloved will mirror yourself back to you and in order to bring him/her in, it is imperative that you hold all the qualities and values you expect your Beloved to possess. It is also important that you get in touch with why certain values are important to you. Sometimes a desired value is on our list because it is in reaction to something negative that happened in a previous relationship.

Let Go of the Past
It is important to move on from that past hurt so that you are creating from a clear energetic space. Let go of the past and you will find yourself more free to create your true heart’s desire. And not just what you believe is available to you. The place to start
letting go of the past is through forgiveness.

Forgive yourself, forgive the other people who have betrayed, abandoned, and disappointed you. Discover what the lesson was for you to learn, be grateful to have that knowledge and experience and move on! When we are focused on past hurts and disappointments then we are choosing our current mate based on what we don’t want. Your last boyfriend cheated? You better make sure the next one is honest and faithful. This way of thinking will keep you stuck in that old pattern. Learn from the past, forgive and move on. Connecting with your Beloved is about what your heart truly desires.

Now you can start treating yourself the way you wish to be treated. If what you desire is respectful love, then you must be giving that love to yourself. Embrace all the parts of you – the good, the bad, and even the ugly. You must be willing to give yourself the same love and acceptance that you are looking for in your mate. When you embrace this then you become available for the love you most desire. This also means that you live our life the same way you would if you already had what you desired. So many people put off living fully until the right conditions are in place. An additional bonus is that living your life in this way will most likely put you in places where you will meet that person who shares your likes, interests, lifestyle, etc.

Be Committed to Your Growth
The next step is to be committed to your personal and spiritual growth. Whatever your spiritual path may be, commit to it fully. This is your path to wholeness. Only by becoming whole yourself will you attract another whole person. In relationship, water seeks its own level – if you want a true soul partner, do the work to move forward on your journey and you will surely meet your partner along the way.

Lastly, the key to manifesting the man on your List is: DO NOT SETTLE!

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Orna And Matthew Walters

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