Someone in recovery needs to go through their own process of transforming their life. This is a unique process for each individual. Give your partner the space they need to establish this new way of being.
If they pull away from you emotionally, allow it. As long as they are working their program and getting help, give them the space to not communicate if that is their choice. Trust that when they feel like sharing with you, they will.
When we feel pressured to be a certain way resistance comes into the picture. Giving your partner space to just be…however they choose to be in the moment is a way to really show your love.
5. Focus On The Good.
It can be so easy to be negative or cynical around the holidays…especially if that’s been your habit. Share what you’re grateful for on a regular basis. Tell your partner what you truly adore about him/her.
Put the emphasis on the things that are working. Not on the problems you are having. What you focus on grows, so focus on the good in your life and your relationship. Nurture it and it will grow.
Choose to attend holiday events that are inspiring, not out of obligation. Spending time with people who are positive and happy will help give you some of that holiday cheer, especially spending time with people who are upbeat without the addition of alcohol.
If family events are a challenge, have a code that the two of you can use to leave when things get uncomfortable. Remember it is important that you are taking care of yourselves and not doing things from a sense of obligation.
We know the holidays can be a challenge for so many people. It is even more of a challenge when you are in relationship with someone in recovery. Having a support network will do wonders for keeping you positive and help you avoid feeling isolated. Find a group. Whether it is Al-Anon or some other support group or even a group of concerned friends and family, having a community that understands your challenges is priceless.
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