We’ve all heard the saying, “Out with the old and in with the new,” and when it comes to love it couldn’t be more beneficial. There is an exchange of energy that occurs with every person we connect with, and when we are intimate with someone that energetic exchange becomes even deeper.
When we hold onto the past, it's as if we have ropes of energy holding us back and keeping us from moving forward toward our desired goal. When we do not release our exes, it's as if we are in a tug-of-war with the past. This is true whether or not we are “carrying a torch” for someone.
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If you have decided that you truly want to Bring In Your Beloved™ then it is imperative that you clean house and release your exes for good. One of the reasons people find it difficult to release an ex is because they are holding onto negative emotions from an old relationship. Whether it is anger, sadness, hurt or even betrayal, holding onto these old emotions can keep you from creating the type of relationship you really want.
Another reason that people find it difficult to move on from an ex is because they are still holding onto hope for that person. They end up consumed with thoughts like: “Maybe they’ll change their mind and come back. Maybe it really was meant to be.” Carrying the torch of hope can keep you energetically attached and unable to move forward. This ultimately delays the learning and growth you need to be available and ready for your true soul partner.
The real question here is, "If you could have exactly the ideal relationship you've always dreamed of with someone you have not even met yet, would you still continue to carry a torch for your ex? Or would you move forward to actually experience the love that you desire?" To choose the latter, you must take action to create it. The best course of action is to cut all ties to your ex and release the hope of reconciliation. Can't Let Go? 3 Steps to Bury the Past and Move On to Better
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Orna once told an ex, “Lose my phone number and forget my name, we are done.” Today, she is friendly with this man. Friendly means that when they bump into each other, it is cordial. If there is something to communicate between them, it gets done, and they are currently friends on Facebook. This happened AFTER a very long period of absolutely zero contact. When she released him and moved on, she meant it with every fiber of her being.
Breaking these energetic and emotional ties is the best way to release the old and create space to bring in the new. We’d like to share a great tool you can do on your own to break these energetic ties. There is an old saying “People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime.” Looking at the reason people come into your life will help you cut the cords. We call this looking for the Golden Nugget. 10 Tips For Surviving A Breakup