2. Create a vision for your ideal relationship. Knowing what you don't want will not bring you what you desire. You must create a clear vision of how you want the relationship to function. Ask yourself how you feel when you are with this person. Don't just create a list that says how tall, what color hair or how much money he/she has. Rather, take an objective look at the values that drive you in relationships and see if they are in alignment with the kind of relationship that you desire. If not, work with a coach or therapist to shift your values to be in alignment with the vision of your ideal relationship.
3. Take different actions. If you continue the same dating patterns and continue to look for love in the same places, how can you expect to have a different outcome? There is an old saying that goes "If you want something you've never had, you've got to do something you've never done." Take a class in something new; join a different online dating site or work with a coach.
It doesn't matter if we believe there is a chance for you to meet someone. All that matters is what you believe is possible for yourself. The desire in your heart exists because it can be fulfilled. It is never too late for love.
Release our society's obsession with youth. Do not let this cultural addiction affect your mindset around love. Love is not about luck and chance. Our beliefs about ourselves create what we experience.
Orna and Matthew Walters are Master Relationship Coaches and are dedicated to busting the myth that love is supposed to happen by accident. You can catch them as guest experts on Bravo’s The Millionaire Matchmaker airing January 29th. More info on Orna and Matthew at their website www.CreatingLoveOnPurpose.com