How to Make Love Last!


How to Make Love Last!

Do you and your partner have a common goal in your relationship? Did you ever? People come together because of shared attraction and companionship and over time as you grow together you make a deeper commitment to the relationship. But did you ever discuss your shared goals, your desires, your dreams of your life together?

Maybe you just entered into your relationship the same way you entered your current job. You needed a job to pay your bills. The longer you worked there, the more comfortable you became in your position, you advanced and eventually you had a nice pension. But did that job serve your soul? Did it serve your natural talents and abilities? Or maybe it just paid the bills and allowed you to buy a house and feed your family.


Relationships can develop along those same lines. But does this relationship serve your soul? Does it feed your curiosity and your creativity? Mutual attraction and similar likes and dislikes are helpful in a relationship, but that is often not enough over the years to help you grow together. We believe in relationship as the next step in our personal and spiritual growth.

We believe we could be happy and fulfilled alone. We waited until we were past forty to marry. However, we both wanted to continue to grow; to be the best versions of ourselves that we could be. And we knew that required a partner. Someone to reflect back our better selves and our highest potential.

It is so enriching to have a shared vision, a common goal in relationship. It gives you a guidepost for the journey and helps you stay on the same page. It is easy for one person to outgrow the other if you are not both clear on what you are creating together. That does not mean that like us you also develop a business together, but it does mean that you both decide what is important to you and what is necessary for your satisfaction.

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