You: “You really should get
off that couch. You’re getting a belly.”
Him: “Yeah? And who put on ten pounds she
can’t take off?”
Ouch. That hurt!
But you know the drill –
what goes around comes around. You were critical, he criticized you right back.
Maybe you’re right, maybe
he’s right too – that’s hardly the issue. What matters is how you come at it,
with love or with put-downs.
With love is something like:
“I’m having more trouble getting rid of these 10 pounds. Would you be willing
to do a power-walk with me a couple of times a week, help me get it off?”
Your pounds and his belly
could get in shape pretty darn quick – without either of you suffering a
put-down. . .