Heart Fails To Flutter

Why do you get this sinking sensation when you look over at your husband one morning and your heart fails to flutter? What if you're not in love with him anymore?

A woman calls her friend, panicked. "I don't think I'm in love with my husband anymore!" "What happened, " her friend asks. "I don't know," the woman wails, "I look at him and all I see is this guy who happens to be my husband – I don't get tingly or happy or anything." Oh my," her friend says, "Maybe it's that end-of-honeymoon thing." "No," the woman replies, "We've been married 5 years and I always got that special feeling around him. Now it's gone!" "Well it'll come back," her friend says, "But what if it doesn't," the woman cries, "What am I gonna do? I don't want to get a divorce!"

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Well of course you don't – and it's not called for anyway. Love changes, it develops and grows over the course of time, and as it does, you feel differently. The heart flutters of the first few years often deepen into a richer, slower, more secure feeling.

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Instead of panicking, deliberately help your love deepen. Look at your husband with new appreciation, make lists of the qualities he's developed as you've been together, the qualities you've come to value over time, the ways in which he's contributed to your life, to your well-being. As you do, you'll find a new depth of feeling which may surprise you into falling in love all over again.

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