Dealing with Porn - His

By YourTango

What is it about the sight of your man ogling T & A spread naked in a magazine that makes you crazy? Why is it your boyfriend drooling over an air-brushed centerfold shatters your self esteem?

You're going along quite nicely in your relationship, until you discover his stash of porn magazines. You throw them away – and he's fine with it. Only 2 months later, you catch him hungrily watching a porn movie in the middle of the afternoon. Suddenly, you're finding porn magazines everywhere. You're devastated. He promises to stop – he loves you and says sex with you is terrific - but somehow the porn keeps cropping up. What do you do?

1) Quit taking it personally. For a lot of guys, sex is a very big deal. Not just sex with a person – but sex – as a drive, as a preoccupation. Porn is a way of dealing with sex, not a substitute for making love with you (unless your love life is in trouble, but that's another story).

2) Make a choice. You have 3 to choose from:

Either accept pornography as part of how your boyfriend deals with sex and don't beat him up for it or try to compete with it. Ask him to view his magazines when you're not around if that makes you more comfortable.

Or decide porn is unacceptable, and go get some relationship counseling together

Or go find a guy who isn't into porn.

Whatever your choice, refuse to be intimidated by pornography! Magazines, webpages and film will never replace the wonders of a living breathing sexual human being.

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