Why is it that your boyfriend and your friends just don’t mix? Why do you get the distinct impression you have to give up your friends to please your boyfriend?
I'm at the car dealership, waiting for my car to be serviced, and a woman nearby is finishing up a conversation on her cell. The guy sitting with her is shaking his head. She turns to him, "What?" "Why did you invite them to dinner?" the guy asks, "You know I don't like them." "I thought you did like them," the woman says, confused. "Well, I don't," the guy replies, "He's stupid and she's boring." The woman stares at him, "You don't like any of my friends, If you had your way I'd never see anybody but you." The guy just smiles.
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Yup. She's right – and that's not a good sign.
You see, when a guy wants to limit who you see or spend time with, the end result is he's cutting you off from the very valuable feedback and support your friends and family give you. As romantic as it may sound to have your world revolve around just the 2 of you, it's not a good place to be. You need the objectivity, caring and sense of perspective your friends and family give you. A healthy relationship expands to include people from both your worlds, making for a very interesting mix.
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Adjusting your social schedule so you have more time with your lover is fine – giving up your friends and family to accommodate your lover is not.
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