4. Move from online to real time sooner rather than later. Almost all of the scams that take place on the internet are fueled by spending loads of time online communicating with someone who you are unable to check out. Red flags include receiving tons of romantic emails, poetry, declarations of love, and promises of marriage from someone you haven’t even met. The U.S. State Department in its warnings of internet scams pinpoints the issue: idealizing potential mates that you meet on the internet. That happens when you spend far too many hours, days, and weeks communicating over email or telephone instead of insisting on a face-to-face.
The scammers scram when you refuse to be swept up in online romancing. Additionally, when you do meet someone for the first time, sometimes you find that the chemistry you felt on the phone evaporates in real time. Better to find that out sooner rather than later so that you don’t drown in guilt because now you must reject the person you’ve been talking to every night for weeks.
5. Date more than one person at a time. You can be like the Bachelorette when you date online and that is an advantage. But here’s the way it works: only for a handful of dates, and no sex with any of your Bachelors. That way you don’t get too attached and you don’t burn other people by being a player. What works is a handful of dates with two or three guys at a time during which you carefully explore the important issues: chemistry, character, and how much he is into you. By the fifth date you should be narrowing down to one stand-out guy. The benefit is the sense of abundance you feel which frees you to be more selective and far less emotionally desperate.
The bottom line is this: if you use internet dating wisely and efficiently, there is no reason you can’t be happily in love in six months or less! For all my step-by-step coaching on how to use internet dating the right way, safely, get Internet Dating for the Savvy Single, available as a Kindle book for only $0.99.
About the author: Nina Atwood, M.Ed., LPC, is a nationally known psychotherapist, author of five self-help books, and frequent expert media guest. Read the transformational book that will change your life and your relationships with men: Temptations of the Single Girl: The Ten Dating Traps You Must Avoid. To successfully date online, get Nina's $0.99 eBook Internet Dating for the Savvy Single. Learn how to communicate effectively with your mate with Soul Talk: Powerful, Positive Communication for a Loving Partnership. Get loads of free advice and Love Strategies at www.singlescoach.com.