5 Internet Dating Strategies That Guarantee Success

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5 Internet Dating Strategies That Guarantee Success
How to use this powerful tool to be happily in love in six months or less

Summer is wedding season and millions of happy brides are finalizing details for their special day. How did these women meet that special guy who popped the question and put a ring on it? It may surprise you to know that one out of five of these couples met on the internet! Internet dating is now approaching one billion dollars in annual revenue. As I’m writing this, tens of thousands of couples—who met on the internet—are deciding to marry! If you don’t know someone who is happily married who met his or her soul mate online, you will. I personally know half a dozen happily married couples who met through an internet-based dating site.

So why aren’t you jumping on this bandwagon? Why aren’t you surfing your way to love right now? Odds are you’ve tried internet dating and didn’t get the results you wanted, or you decided not to try based on the bad stories you’ve heard. He wasn’t all he seemed to be. He/she was married, a drug addict, a sex addict, a commitment-phobe, a liar, a gold-digger, or a player.

Yes, there are bad stories about online dating. And there are bad stories about meeting people at bars. And bad stories about meeting them at work, at Church, through friends. Bad relationship stories abound because of the dynamics of relationships, not because of where or how the couple met.

Internet dating is a tool that can be used to meet people, no more and no less. And it’s an incredibly efficient tool. You can find people to date while sitting at your laptop in the privacy of your own home. It is a powerful tool, but you must know how to use it wisely. Here are my top five strategies you should employ before you go online to find your soul mate.

1. Invest your money. Signing up for free dating sites puts you squarely in the passive role where you have no choice but to wait and hope that one of the thousands of people surfing through the site finds you. The competition is fierce on dating sites and you will be overlooked. It doesn’t cost much to get a paying membership and it is well worth it. Then, you can look for people who interest you and reach out to them, giving you a greater sense of control over your own destiny.

2. Invest your time. It takes a few hours per week, but if you were hoping to meet someone in face time, you would have to invest multiples of those hours in order to attend enough events to meet a quality person who is not already taken. It’s well worth the time, and you can multi-task since you are sitting there in your own home.

3. Assume nothing about compatibility or character, no matter what the sites tell you. You have to do your own “due diligence” as you meet people. Even matchmaking sites that purport to do the screening for you don’t get it right on the whole. Nothing substitutes for taking your time getting to know someone slowly, by asking the right kinds of questions. Background checks are essential. Nothing substitutes for meeting in person and relying on good old gut feel.

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