To further emphasize the issue, here are supplementary stereotypical expectations of men: A man is expected to pay for the first date. A man is expected to initiate a conversation about asking for a second date (or several dates thereafter). A man is expected to hold the door open for a woman. A man is expected to “take the lead” by tipping the valet or checking coats. A man is expected to ask a woman’s father for her hand in marriage. A man is expected to propose marriage to a woman. A man is expected to be a family’s provider.
Can you see why the dating marketplace is more challenging for men? Can you imagine having to live up to these chivalrous standards? Can you see why women should be giving men a little leeway? I am not giving the men a free pass here; however, it is vital to highlight the incessant pressures they encounter.
Men obviously have expectations of women, and I’m extremely empathetic to the dating hurdles women have to overcome. However, they are not nearly as mandatory (or comparable) to what is required of men for dating and relationship success. Hence, let’s not delude ourselves. We all know certain men will never be given a chance if they do not live up to or meet the aforementioned criteria.
This is the 21st century, and yes, there is a shift in gender roles. Amen! Although, in romantic relationships, certain gender roles and expectations still exist and may always exist. By acknowledging the dating and relationship inequities between the sexes, along with the additional pressures men must combat, falling in love will become an easier process. So please, give the good men a break.