Could You Use A 'Snow-Day'?

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Could You Use A 'Snow-Day'?
Five strategies to let yourself off the hook in your life and start living on your own terms.

3. Eat something you love – if you really love it.

I don’t know about you, but I am SO BORED with feeling ‘mad’ at myself every time I eat something I wasn’t ‘supposed’ to eat. Totally bored. I just can’t be peeved at myself anymore! It’s a total waste of time and energy. If you love red velvet cupcakes and you haven’t had one in months and you pass by a bakery that just baked up some red velvet cupcakes……EAT THE CUPCAKE and don’t hate yourself afterwards. Let yourself off the hook from having to be ‘perfect’ with your eating at every single moment of your life. Perfect is boring – and there is no joy in self-recrimination.

4. Don’t go to everything.

If you find yourself dragging your feet about an invitation, a luncheon, a dinner, an out-of-town wedding, an engagement party, a barbecue…..pay attention to your thoughts and feelings. How often are you saying to yourself, “Ugh. I should go to this dinner, even though I just want to stay home and have a night to myself,” or, “Ugh. I don’t want to go to this stupid THING – but I know I really should, because it will look good and it might be weird if I don’t”. I ask this of my clients all the time: When was the last time you held a grudge against someone because they couldn’t make it to one of your parties? The truth is that people are NEVER as upset, put out, disappointed as we imagine they will be when we need to decline an invitation. They get over it! Please – I implore you – let yourself off the hook from having to attend absolutely every single event to which you are invited. You don’t. It’s okay. Go to the things you want to attend – and bring your best self.

5. Let enough be enough.

Do you respond to a thank-you note with a thank-you note? Do you reciprocate – and top – every single kind gesture that comes your way? When does it stop? When have you done enough? If you act with a strong and pure intention, your message will be received the very first time. Let yourself off the hook from having to ‘prove’ who you are all the time. Maybe it’s enough to simply BE who you are – fully.

 

What are your favorite ways to let yourself off the hook? What are your biggest challenges around this idea? Please leave your comments below!

Thanks!

Nicole

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