Are You A Good Boyfriend To Your Money?

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Are You A Good Boyfriend To Your Money?
Take care of your money, and it will take care of you!

They say that if you take care of your money, it will eventually take care of you. Sounds simple enough, doesn't it? It raises the question, though: How strong a caregiver are you?

I like to think of it this way: In the giddy, blissful early days of a new relationship, the stars seems to align and everything in the relationship flows. We're in looove. We are constantly thinking about one another, calling all the time, checking in frequently, delighting in each other's tiniest quirks and relishing every moment spent together. Caring about each other - and showing it - feels effortless. As a result, we feel loved, vital, and as though anything is possible. We want it to go on forever!

I think it IS possible for the good feelings to go on forever - but it might not always feel effortless. It's usually when our caring behaviors become less frequent - or cease altogether - that the relationship begins to crumble. While your interest in the other person may still be strong, if you're not actively showing it or expressing it, then it's as though you are keeping a secret. And that's when things can turn yucky. "Gee, he doesn't call me as much anymore just to say HI," or "She seems to take it for granted that I'll be here," or "He used to be more excited about me". When the behaviors of 'caring' fall away, a lot of gruesome feelings and behaviors pop up in their place; resentment, withholding, punishment, lack.

As a general rule, people love to feel seen, heard, and appreciated. Well, your money is the exact same way. It loves when you call. It loves when you notice that it's a little bit down in the dumps. It loves when you take the time to make it feel special. It needs your caring behaviors, or else it tends to respond by.....leaving! Your money really wants you to be a good boyfriend/girlfriend/partner/luvah - all the time. It helps it to grow.

How do you show your money how much you care? Are you a good, reliable 'boyfriend' to your dough? Or are you more like the Bad Boy who doesn't call for weeks at a time? Please chime in and let me know your tips and thoughts. I'd love to hear from you!

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