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Giving Advice: Always Remember The 3 T's

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It’s very tricky to give advice to your child, especially if you want your advice followed!

Sometimes it’s so obvious what our child needs to do: Do your homework. Do it early and on time. Don’t wait until the last minute to get the homework or project finished.

Remember the 3 T’s:

Tentative

Start with words like “You might have already thought about this…” or “What do you think about trying…” These statements will increase your teen’s likelihood of actually trying your suggestion.


Timing

Wait a few hours after you find out about a bad grade before giving any advice. When we give advice right away after bad news, our kids rarely hear it!

Temper

If your child is cranky, no amount of advice will get in. Wait until a more receptive time.

This article was originally published at . Reprinted with permission from the author.

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