Getting Into College - Is It Really Tougher These Days?

Getting Into College - Is It Really Tougher These Days?

Getting Into College - Is It Really Tougher These Days?

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The truths, myths, and ways to decrease our worries about our kids getting into college.

I have taken a very close look at one of the biggest anxiety producers for parents these days: Getting our kids into college. In my research I have found some truths, some myths, and some different ways of looking at this issue that might decrease our own worries and increase the likelihood of success for our kids. In this article I am going to focus on the myth that it is harder than ever to get into college.

So let's first look at the statement: It is harder than ever to get into college. Where did that statement originate? This statement comes from the fact that colleges (and universities - I will use college as the generic term) have had a huge increase in the number of applicants in the past ten years and the number of students accepted has not increased dramatically. At first view, it means that they are turning away more and more students. But in fact they are not. One of the reasons for the increase has been because the students are sending more applications than they used to. Most school are getting many more applications than ten years ago. So the applicant/student ratio has changed dramatically, but that doesn't mean it is harder to get in.

So let's look at some more accurate ways to see how hard it is to get in to school compared to ten years ago. Nationally, when you compare GPA and SAT scores ten years ago of students being accepted into a competitive college with recent students, the numbers have not moved much at all. In general, a well qualified student has just as much an opportunity of getting into a good school now as ten years ago.

But Neil, in Virginia the state schools have gotten much more difficult to get into in the past ten years. That means my kids have to work harder than I did to get in.

That's true, especially in some states...at least to a point. When you take a look at the top four or five state schools in any state, they have probably become more difficult to be accepted due to the fact that their reputation has probably increased recently. William and Mary, The University of Virginia, Virginia Tech, and now recently James Madison University among others, are much more difficult to get into than before.

What do we do about this information? Do we let it increase our anxiety and do every thing we can to get our kids into those schools? Possibly, but there might be major consequences to that. I have worked with a number of students whose parents did everything they could to assure good grades in high school. Then, when their child went off to college and didn't have that level of support, they realized they were in over their heads and couldn't compete.

Or do we accept that our child might not have the academic drive to be successful at such schools? It feels like a question we shouldn't ask, as if it is decreasing our confidence in our kids. But ask yourself, if you have a child getting A's and B's in the beginning of sophomore year, with a GPA of 3.2 what is the likelihood she will get into Harvard? Probably pretty slim. What are the chances of William and Mary, or UVA (or insert any other very competitive school). Probably pretty slim. It's OK to admit this. There is a point where telling our kids "You can do anything" tends to be destructive instead of being motivating. It is OK for us to help our children set reasonable goals, but setting goals that are unreasonable might be more damaging than motivating.

One of the exercises I do with high school students is to begin to look at the chances of how they will finish high school based on where they are now. I remember a student I worked with at the end of his sophomore year. He had a 2.9 GPA at that point and was still hopeful that he could get into a top school. So we did the math. If he got straight A's for the rest of his high school career, the best he could get was a 3.45. Now a 3.45 is nothing to sneer at. It's a very good GPA, but not good enough for him to get into the schools that require a 3.75 minimum. He had already lost that chance his first two years. And I think it is also realistic for him to ask himself what are the chances he will get straight A's when he has been a B student from first grade up to 10th grade? So, instead of him focusing on an unrealistic goal, he was better off looking at where he could be successful instead of trying to reach something very difficult to meet.

So, my advice to parents is to take the anxiety down a couple of notches. It might not be as hard as you think it is for your son or daughter to get to college. Will they get into the same school you went to? Maybe. Maybe not.

Let's say, though, that there is a good chance for your son or daughter to get into the top schools in your state. How should you best support that? There are some very interesting data on this as well that I will share in my next article.

Data provided by The Center for Public Education

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