The gesture that plays the biggest role in body language is definitely eye contact.
Let me explain what I mean by eye contact.
Eye contact isn't just gazing mindlessly into someone else’s eyes . . . that’s kinda creepy. The area within the eye-nose triangle is where we want to focus most of the eye contact.
As a general rule, eye contact should be maintained about 80% of the time with your date. The best way to do this is to keep contact for 7 to 14 seconds and then away for about 3 to 6 seconds.
The most powerful indicator of liking is realized while using eye contact, and that indicator is pupil expansion.
That's right. Pupil size growth is the best way to know if the person whose eyes we’re looking into actually likes us.
When a person finds another attractive or appealing in some way, the size of their pupils literally grows.
Smiling is another fantastic predictor of liking. As a matter of fact, we should genuinely smile as much as possible while on a date . . . this does NOT mean have "pudding face" all night!
Smiling displays happiness and makes us more pleasing to be around. It's crucial to note that I said genuinely smile, because anyone and everyone can spot fake smiles when they are right in front of them.
It's also largely important that we know what to do with our hands while we’re out on a date. Our hands will speak wonders about your comfort level when with someone.
Let's say you're out to dinner with a woman you've been eager to date for a while now. You're so nervous and clueless, you start to fidget and play with your fingers . . . five minutes later, you start biting your nails. This will make her very uncomfortable.
If you can't keep your hands separate or if you don't know what the hell to do with them, just cup the right hand downward into the left one.
Just imagine how much more smooth and charismatic we all can be with brilliant body language. Whether you have an American Express Card Black Card, or no credit card, increasing physical appearance is well within your means. You pair that with proper use of gestures and you're golden. It's not nearly as hard as it sounds . . . I promise.
Pay attention to women’s' body language and respond with precision . . . you've got it in you, I know it.
Body language can turn Fogel into McLovin (if you haven't seen the movie Superbad, then you probably won't get the joke ;-) ).
P.S. That said, why don't you try it?
The next time you're in the field (meaning, where women are), try this concept. Make sure that you are cleanly shaved and appropriately dressed.
Drop me a comment and let me know about your success!