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Is Your Man a Momma's Boy?


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Big Red Flags to help you decode a guy's relationship with his mother.

Ah, men and their mothers. It’s a bond we may not fully understand until we birth sons
ourselves. In the meantime, we’ll keep busy by examining how the men in our lives
interact with their mothers, in order to glean more info on their overall character. Here’s a guide to help your guy analysis.

He Calls Her Every Day: If your man and his mom are in constant communication, then he likely tells her everything… including the intimate details of your relationship. Not only will she be privy to your private interactions with her son, but she probably also weighs in on every argument the two of you have. And guess whose side she’ll be taking.

He Needs Her Input: There’s something emasculating about a grown man who can’t make a decision without his mother’s guidance. Sure, we’d like him to respect her opinions, but when he uses his mom as a crutch, it’s a sign that he’s too insecure to stand on his own two feet. If he
doesn’t trust himself to make a decision, then how are you supposed to trust him to?

He Doesn't Appreciate Her: A guy who takes his mother — the woman who gave him life — for granted probably doesn’t give props to any of the peeps in his life, including his girlfriend. This type of man typically has an inflated sense of self and feels entitled: He doesn’t thank people, because he thinks they’re just doing their required duty, whether it’s as a lover, a mother or a friend.

He Talks Badly About Her: While not all mothers deserve a Mom of the Year award, regardless of how terrible a guy’s mom was or even still is, his propensity to diss the woman who birthed him is a poor reflection of his personality. A jab once in a while is understandable; constant bad-mouthing (or worse, whining) shows a lack of respect for women and a serious need to grow up.

He Thinks She’s His Maid: If he still expects his mom to clean up after him, then this over-coddled dude likely relies on other people to handle all his adult responsibilities, like filling out job applications and scheduling appointments. The fact that he hasn’t taken ownership of these tasks shows that he’s immature and lazy.

He Still Adheres to Her Rules: Men who live by their mother’s edicts long after they’ve left the house don’t have the cojones to establish their own set of values and standards. If every sentence out of his mouth is “my mom says,” then it’s not only annoying, but also a signal that he’s afraid to live his own life.

He Puts Her on a Pedestal: When Mom is god’s gift to the world, whatever she says, does or thinks will always be superior to what you say, do or think. Even if you’re brighter, prettier and kinder than his mother, you’ll never quite measure up in his book.

He’s Close With Her: A guy who's close with his mommy isn't necessarily a momma’s boy. Actually, a man who has a good relationship with mom is generally more sensitive, communicative and understanding toward women’s emotions than one who barely speaks to his mother.

For more red-flag advice, check out the authors' dating guide The Little Black Book of Big Red Flags. You can also follow them on Twitter @bigredflags.

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