Don't Manipulate. If the relationship to develop a huge imbalance, don't try to somehow even the playing field by denying your significant other the opportunity for shared quality time doing what he loves. Punishing each other is not the answer. The spirit of quality time is a means of keeping your connection alive throughout the years. It is a preventive measure from falling into a routine of boredom and mutual emotional non fulfillment. The spark doesn’t simply go out of a marriage, it diminishes because of the little daily actions or inactions, which are absolutely preventable.
Explore New Options Together. You’ve mutually agreed to his few nights of television sports with you on the couch and your few nights of biking or taking a walk, connecting about topics that interest you. As a relationship coach, I suggest that once each feels validated with the quality time of choice, you make a point of exploring an interest that is new and interesting. The new activity can be "our" quality time.
Perhaps his ideal of romance and quality time is not what you would choose. Your attitude will decide if this will be a shared activity of connection or something you impatiently, begrudgingly tolerate. I encourage you to take the first step toward showing your guy how much you care and love him and let him show off all his knowledge regarding what makes his eyes light up. I guarantee that your standard will rub off on him and you will see him reciprocate when it's your turn.
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