How Your Parents' Divorce Affects Your Love Life

By Nancy Pina. Posted on Nov 14th 2012.

Research suggests that grown-up children of divorced parents feel the effects into adulthood.

3. I love you until you mess up. Mentally waiting for something terrible to happen in your relationships will bring that expectation to reality. For example, you may have formed a core belief that all men cheat as a result of your parents' breakup. No matter how great a relationship starts and the potential it has to lead to lasting love, you will sabotage it with this type of thinking in the back of your mind.

4. I love you no matter how you treat me. Denying unacceptable behavior because you fear the consequences of being alone is another way your parents' divorce can affect your view of love. You may have seen your mother struggle emotionally and financially after divorce. In your mind as a child, you believed that before divorce was better than after. Consequently, you surmised that staying together is more desirable despite the circumstances.

The key to attracting emotionally healthy relationships involves releasing these falsehoods. The emotional ashes that came from divorce can turn into beauty if you stop living life through the barriers to love you formed from that circumstance. You have the power to create the type of love you desire but will first need to align your mindsets to attract the right relationship leading to a lasting, loving and fulfilling marriage.

Nancy Pina is a highly recognized author, relationship coach and speaker. She is dedicated to helping individuals attract emotionally healthy relationships through her practical, Christian-based advice. Visit here for articles, exercises and more. Here are recent books and free App.

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