Two: Backslide Into Physical Intimacy. Keeping the door to temptation open, especially with a person you loved and already had a physical relationship with is not spiritually wise. Even if it never happens, there is always a level of attraction to each other that is best shared within the boundaries of a committed relationship. Above all else in life, one should guard the heart for it is the wellspring of life. It is like keeping a big slice of the most delicious cake on your kitchen counter every day while you are eager to lose weight. Eventually, you will give in to the temptation because of its availability. If the cake wasn’t in the house, you probably would not have fallen into that trap.
Three: You’ll Probably Miss The Right One. Relationship patterns are difficult to see when the past is still in the picture on a regular basis. The mind will start rationalizing and reasoning out why this person is not so bad after all. Perhaps he’s a great guy and you two were not meant for love; however that does not erase the elephant in the room: the reasons why it did not work out. More than likely, you will continue this relationship pattern with your ex in the picture because you can’t see the deeper levels of why change is necessary. A breakup can be the beginning of increased wisdom and understanding. You can chose to build your new life with the rare and beautiful treasures of spiritual knowledge you can take into a better relationship.
A lasting, deeply connected relationship is much more than physical attraction and chemistry. You can attract the right man for love if you take the time to prepare not only emotionally and mentally, but also spiritually. It is important to live in a manner that conveys the message that you are worthy of love; you value shared faith and morals and are committed to living a life of integrity.
Keeping the past in your present is symbolic spiritually because it makes the statement that you live by sight and not by faith. Being vulnerable in love is an act of faith, which can open better, lasting and more fulfilling doors to the right kind of love when you look at the past as an avenue for growth.
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