3 Myths NFL Wives Believe Who Stay With Abusive Players


3 Myths NFL Wives Believe Who Stay With Abusive Players
Why do women stay with abusive husbands?
Money and power do not necessarily lead to emotional healthy, loving relationships with NFL players.

Successful football players who are selected to play professionally in the NFL often have tumultuous home lives. The incidence of domestic violence in professional sports is staggering. This is reflected in the recently reported story of Kansas City Chiefs linebacker Jovan Belcher's deadly shooting of his girlfriend and later suicide at the team's facility.

On the surface of player's lives, most people see a facade of wealth, celebrity and entrance into an organization that only very few are chosen. These men appear to have it all primarily because society equates material wealth and career success as a "good life." No matter how high the status and achievement, without addressing the issues and emotional challenges of one's formative years, life will follow a familiar, predictable pattern regardless of one's wealth.

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There is a popular belief that violent sports such as football attract violent people, therefore violence naturally occurs in their intimate relationships. This is not necessarily the natural flow of reasoning. Football is violent. Football attracts men who like violence. 

However, those two facts do not lead to violence in some players personal lives. The women who are attracted to these men share similar life experiences and vice versa. Every person has a pattern that developed in their formative years and NFL players are not different from anyone else.

The following are myths women believe who stay with their abusive NFL partners:

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1. Money erases the past. Buying a new car(s), home, house for mom, sharp suits and jewelry only spruces up the outside. Internally, nothing has changed. The anger, painful emotions and basic core beliefs from an often violent upbringing are still unresolved issues. The NFL woman many times believes she can provide the player with enough love, emotional support and stability which will miraculously change his tendencies toward violence in his personal life. Keep reading ...

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