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10 Ways To Turn Your Self Doubt Into Positivity For A BETTER Life

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You are the key to your own happiness!

You watch others get the things they want in life. They have great jobs, solid friendships, enjoyable lifestyles, beautiful homes and loving partners. You can’t help but wonder, "Why don't I have those things in my life?"

According to the Law of Attraction, we create our own realities by virtue of our thoughts and actions. We attract the things we want. We also attract the things we don’t want. Our positive mindset can help bring opportunities and other positivity. Conversely, our negative thoughts deflect good karma and draw problems our way. If the people and circumstances in your life repeatedly cause heartbreak and regret, you may want to evaluate your OWN level of emotional health.

Here are 10 ways you can turn ‘stinking thinking’ into powerful thoughts that help get you what you want in life:

1. Do you have a closed mindset?

You categorize everything in black and white, no shades of gray. You have a knee-jerk reaction to the comments, opinions and ideas of others. They’re wrong. You’re right. Instead of listening to the person talking, your mind rushes to respond with your adamant point of view, stubbornly refusing theirs.

Positive Solution: Ask questions and listen attentively to the opinions and ideas of others—they may know something you don’t. Consider that there can be two rights, and no one is wrong.

2. Are you plagued by self-doubt and procrastination? 

I don’t think I can do this, you think. You have great ideas, but you fear deep down that you are incapable of success, so you drag your feet, lose your enthusiasm and fail by default.

Positive Solution: Commit your ideas and goals to paper, set a start date and a timeline for completion—and then just do it! Forget about being successful. Your goal is to execute small and large action steps. Your incremental accomplishments will motivate you, pushing you closer to a positive outcome.

3. Do you often find that you're comparing yourself to others? 

We’ll never be as pretty, as talented, as rich, or as successful as everyone else. We can always find someone we think is better, if we look hard enough.

Positive Solution: Stop comparing yourself to others and concentrate on your strengths, talents and accomplishments—both small and large. Love and appreciate who you are, right now, not who you want to become.

4. Are you beating yourself up over everything? 

You can't stand your own shortcomings. We all fail from time to time. We under-plan, we over-estimate, and we miss the mark. We overeat and overspend. We overreact and respond poorly. Beating ourselves up for minor infractions is counter-productive and creates a negative self-image.

Positive Solution: Acknowledge your error. Put it in perspective and move on. “I spoke rashly to my friend.” Apologize and let it go. “I over ate and I didn’t exercise.” Skip dessert, exercise tomorrow and get your enthusiasm on track. Keep a journal of your successes in your personal and business life in the last week, month, year, or five years.

5. Is your inner dialog self-deprecating? 

Your inner voice belittles and devalues your worth. You reject compliments and underplay your accomplishments. You put yourself down in front of others. You say, “I’m so clumsy. I look fat. I’m not smart enough. I always forget things. If anyone can screw up, I will."

Positive Solution: Immediately reject negative self-talk. Focus on the things you like about yourself. Acknowledge your accomplishments. Accept your imperfections; we all have them. Don’t broadcast your shortcomings. Say “thank you” for compliments.

6. Ever rationalize decisions by how you feel? 

“I feel, therefore it must be true.” You react to life and people based on your unhealthy, illogical and irrational emotions.

Positive Solution: Base your perception on facts and evidence. It will illuminate reality.

7. Have you fallen into a mindset of 'not enough'? This can make us overly competitive and greedy. Your sub-conscious tells you there is not enough to go around. You need to get this or that before the other guy does. You can’t share your knowledge or connections because someone may take advantage of you. Scarcity thinking shuts down your resourcefulness and the generosity of others.

Positive Solution: Learn to see success as something that can be shared. If I am generous and I help and support your efforts, you will, in turn, feel benevolent about promoting me. We each increase our chances to be successful.

8. Are you a downer?

You see everyone and everything in a negative light. You look for the worst in others. You capitalize on their shortcomings. You complain about every situation. You openly express your negativity to everyone around you.

Positive Solution: Negative chatter is an acquired bad habit that can be broken. Look for the positive aspects in every person and every situation in your life, and express those thoughts. You may be surprised that you like what you find.

9. Do you find yourself generalizing things? 

You allow a single hurtful event to define your daily existence, even the outcome of your life. You let one negative remark ruin your whole day. You see one mistake as a deficit against your overall good performance.  You view one failure as defeat.

Positive Solution: One negative event, person or comment does not define your life. One error does not make you worthy or unworthy. See a single unpleasant incident as a bump in the road.

10. Uh oh, you've been assuming the worst! 

You jump to conclusions about others and situations. You imagine someone doesn’t like you, you immediately go on the defense when someone insults or mistreats you, and you feel the need to confront them and expose their insensitive behavior. The result is additional negative feelings. You overreact to a minor comment or someone’s offish behavior, like if your husband or boyfriend is in a bad mood, you assume you did something wrong.

Positive Solution: Assume things are going well (that people like you and all is right in your world) until you learn differently. Let the insults and negative actions of others roll off you—don’t let their problem become your problem. Realize life is not always about you. Lower your expectations of others, and realize no one is perfect. Take time to cool off; you may decide it really was no big deal. Whatever the outcome—don’t burn your bridges.

God, Please Fix Me! by Nancy Nichols is based on a true event. It can help you identify your self-defeating mindset and replace it with powerful, positive thoughts that attract good karma. 

This article was originally published at Reprinted with permission from the author.


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