Straight Talk About What You're Seeing in the Mirror

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Straight Talk About What You're Seeing in the Mirror
Don’t like what you’re seeing? You can shift this quickly with a little open-hearted "Re-view"..

* So, What’s Your Disclaimer?
Every vehicle, every body comes with the option of a disclaimer in the contract. As humans we all have free will. But in this culture, it seems like no one, individual, company, or group, is willing to be accountable. It’s avoided like the plague, often subjugated with avoidance and/or blame. They’re actually ends of the spectrum, but the message usually boils down to the same: “We’re not responsible.”  “I’m fat because… My genes make me fat. My family is all big boned. I hate my body, but it’s not my fault. Look at all the terrible food available. I’m too busy. It’s no use, I’m doomed to thunderthighs.” There are so many “reasons”.  It’s so much easier to avoid or blame.

* Doing the AVOIDANCE.
We all know denial isn’t just a river in Egypt. Yea, I can hear you, groaning again. That’s okay. You are stronger than you think. Keep Reminding Yourself, Remembering to ask, “What do I want?” Of course, you can always close up, turn away and go pack it in again. How’s that been working for you? Have you been able to stop spinning your wheels (in whatever area of your life)? Ultimately, the situation’s going to persist until we let it up and out, look at it, feel it, recognize it, accept and appreciate that it’s trying to give us a message. Doing the Avoidance: avoidance and blame are really mirrors to each other.

* We do Create our own Reality.
And whatever you believe is true, for YOU. "Don’t confuse me with the facts; I’ve made up my mind." But there’s only so much backpedaling we can do. Eventually, what’s submerged resurfaces. So, might as well get real with yourself. Get real honest with yourself. Do you really want to see? What’s going on, or are you just looking for stuff that will reinforce your perspective???

* WHAT A PAIN.
Truth Hurts? We definitely have anywhere from an uncomfortable to a downright hate relationship with pain. We go to unbelievable lengths to avoid it. We hide from ourselves and others. We avoid going there almost at all cost-- unless the scale tips on the approach/ avoidance dynamic. Usually it’s called Avoidance.

* In this culture, we’re encouraged, programmed not to put up with pain -- even for a moment. Whether it’s aspirin or affirmations, we’re encouraged to get out of feeling pain and discomfort as fast as we possibly can, ASAP. And sometimes we’re even shamed, chastised or ostracized for paying any attention to it at all.

* Pain is Congestion. Congestion of thoughts, backed up emotions, waste products, accumulation of fear, creating inflammation. Bottomline, though, it’s not going to disappear just because you turn your back on it, push it down and suppress it in your emotional body, segregate yourself from it by putting up a wall of coldness or food or fatness against it. Or even command it to leave, like some spiritual groups adamantly maintain. How’s that been working for you? Is there really anyone or anything anywhere that can just wave a magic wand and wipe away your pain? Have you ever found this to be true? Even pain relievers are temporary.

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