Traditionally, Easter has been a Christian celebration. Many families are honoring the crucifixion and resurrection of Jesus Christ.
The world embraces more diversity. Families no longer mirror the TV families of the 1950's, religion becomes less of a central focus for many families; we are faced with the challenge of figuring out how to celebrate the season.
One spouse may have a stronger view of religion and the significance of Easter; many divorced couples find themselves at odds when it comes to holiday celebrations when two opposing views come into play. Add in a new marriage and blended family and the season becomes even more difficult to navigate.
Here are some easy strategies to implement so you can have an fantastic Easter celebration with your blended family.
1. The day is about renewal. Whether you are celebrating a religious event or you are simply celebrating the spring season, remember this is about all things new. Celebrate your new dynamic and begin to make new traditions that honor your renewal.
2. Your kids need diversity. Give your kids all the love and information they need to become stellar critical thinkers. Give them the support and guidance necessary to truly make the big decisions in their life. We want our kids to grow up into functioning healthy adults. The way they get there is through learning from experiences.
3. Set aside your personal story. Yes, divorce sucks. It is even harder around the holidays and big celebrations. Life as we knew it will never be the same. We have begun a new chapter and now is the time to gift our children with the freedom to experience their own emotions and not cloud them with our personal view. Your ex may have all the decorations you once had, buy new ones. Your ex may be better at baking that Easter dinner, go to a restaurant. Start new traditions. Begin new rituals.
4. Ask for help. Get your kids involved in creating new memories. Ask them what they want for dinner this year. Seek out new adventures together. Do the traditional activities with your new spin on it. Join in a community Easter Egg Hunt. Color eggs differently. The slate is clean and you get to create something cool with your kids.
5. Be open to something different. Let's face it, change is never easy. You have a unique opportunity to co-create change with your kids and a new family dynamic. Attend a religious service. Sleep late. Hide eggs. Volunteer with a charity. Whatever you choose to do, be open minded and open to the possibility that you may LOVE the new story you are creating. Give your kids the gift of everything you are willing to be this Easter.
Life changes, often for the better. Embrace the opportunity to design new traditions and experiences for your family. Wish your ex spouse well and take a chance that you may just find something worth looking forward to.