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Are You Expecting Too Much Of Yourself? Too Little?

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Are You Expecting Too Much Of Yourself? Too Little?
Take time to explore your expectations from past and present. Are you content or ready for change?

Perhaps it comes down to balance. If you’re content 90% of the time, you’ve probably worked out the “too much—too little” issue. If you’re feeling listless, useless, without a purpose or vision, or overwhelmed, stressed, without time for yourself, this may be a time to consider a change. You know, sometimes it is as easy as just deciding to change. That’s one way some smokers and overeaters have done it. What’s a way you might find a balance between “too much” and “too little”?

What might the changes be? John Ruskin, over 100 years ago, said "What we think, or what we know, or what we believe is, in the end, of little consequence. The only consequence is what we do." One less TV program so you have time for a pet project? Shutting off the phone or computer at 8 or 9 pm instead of 11:00? Repeating Louise Hay’s affirmation “I approve of myself” as many times a day as you get a dissatisfied
feeling about yourself? Taking in what friends say about how much you expect of yourself? Taking five to 55 minutes every day just to daydream, to journal, to sing, to express yourself? I’ve taken turns doing several of these. What can wait? What can’t?

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How about taking the next 20 or so minutes to write down the areas of your life where you perhaps expect too much of yourself.  Where might you expect too little? Finally, what is one change in your life that could lead  more balance? Will you do it?

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If you'd like to explore your expectations, or any other area of your life, call me for a complimentary 30 minute coaching session. I'm at 206-938-8385.  Moreah

 

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