to the YourTango newsletter!

Continue to Site »»

ProConnect

7 Guidelines For Making Christmas Your Favorite Time Of Year

By . Posted on .

7 Guidelines For Making Christmas Your Favorite Time Of Year
It's easy to get stressed over the holidays. Here are 7 ways to make December your favorite month.

4) Watch your favorite show again.  “It’s a Wonderful Life” with James Stewart, “Elf,” “Scrooge,” Nutcracker Ballet or anything that warms your heart. If you have a custom of going out for a new movie, keep the custom as long as it pleases you. Or pull up something from Netflix or Hulu to bring on the raucous laughter or the healing tears.  Savor this time as much as you would look forward to your child’s birthday or to a surprise party for you.  It’s so easy to get overextended and to make excuses for not doing what relaxes you.  Can you guess how much lighter you may feel about holiday headaches when you’ve said YES to what brings back memories of favorite movies or activities. If popcorn or eggnog or Christmas cookies or hot toddies are tied in with those memories, be sure to include them and relish them again. Invite family or friends to share the show, or watch it alone—whichever you will do with ease and pleasure. 

5) Volunteer. Call your local church or library or newspaper or United Way or Salvation Army or any organization that would welcome volunteers.  Would you enjoy sharing a toy with a homeless child? Visiting a lonely senior or a new family in the neighborhood?  Inviting an acquaintance over for coffee? Offering to babysit for a couple who’d like to have a date night? You might bring items to a food bank.  And you can consciously smile at people on the street without signing up for anything.  You’ll have the satisfaction of seeing you do have time to make a difference for someone. And you might even start a habit that will give you and them ongoing satisfaction.

More from YourTango: Online Dating For Seniors : 5 Ways To Know It Will Be FUN!

6) Start a 21-day self-affirming habit. It could be meditation, listening to free webinars (www.manifesteverythingnow.com), subscribing to www.abraham-hicks.com or www.tut.com, repeating the 12 Pathways (http://mindprod.com/livinglove/methods/pathways.html), which are 5 of my favorite practices, or any number of methods or processes for increasing self-love and having the life you love.  I welcome your call for a free coaching session in any area where you want new behaviors or results or satisfaction or change.

7) Count your blessings.  Instead of noting all you didn’t get completed this year, list 10-50 things you feel good about.  Start or add to your Gratitude Journal. Note compliments from friends or co-workers.  Remember the genuine appreciation you received for your helpfulness and warmth. List the meals you made or ate that were a big hit for you and/or others.  Recall the outings to parks and rivers and trails and city festivals and dances and concerts.  Savor memories of minutes or hours at the beach, on your deck, laughing with friends, preparing for a trip, seeing new sights, trying a new hobby, being content to just sit and take in all the things that bring a smile of contentment to your whole being.

More from YourTango: 4 Ways To Deal With Difficult Changes In Your Relationships

And if you'd like a free coaching session on dealing with the old year or the new, and its challenges or issues, email moreah@comcast.net and write Free Session in the subject line. Leave your phone number and I'll call you back.  Happy Holidays!

Article contributed by
Advanced Member

Ms. Moreah Vestan

Author

Moreah Vestan, M. A.

Come visit my website Pleasures and  Ponderings

Check out my  website Communication Coaching

Visit my blog Pleasures and Ponderings

Location: Seattle, WA
Credentials: MA
Specialties: Communication Problems, Dating/Being Single Support
Other Articles/News by Ms. Moreah Vestan:

Online Dating For Seniors : 5 Ways To Know It Will Be FUN!

By

Have you been curious about whether you are "too old" to start dating again? With all the online dating sites, from match and eharmony (where my son found his wife) to OKCupid and plentyoffish (both free), if nothing else, 1) check out those dating sites!    If you read the profiles of men (or women) you are looking for, you're very ... Read more

4 Ways To Deal With Difficult Changes In Your Relationships

By

Have you had a relationship go south when you were feeling good about it? Were you torn between resignation and resistance? Here are some responses that have led me to peace and acceptance when it was hard to get there. I recently exchanged emails over several weeks with a man I'd replied to on OKCupid.com. Over time, we had slid into teasing and ... Read more

Are You Expecting Too Much Of Yourself? Too Little?

By

When do you expect too much of yourself? Do you ever expect too little? I have no experience expecting too little of myself, but would be curious about others’ experiences with that. (How about a comment after you read this?)  How do your expectations play out? What childhood lessons contributed to that? If you had no expectations from others, ... Read more

See More

Recent Expert Posts
Cuffs

What Is A Dysfunctional Relationship?

Dysfunctional Relationships are relationships that do not perform their appropriate function.

Smothering

Solving ADD to Autism at Home

How to use a "cheaper" alternate to Neurofeedback with non-drug therapies that work at home.

Liquor

Why Doesn’t He Like Me Back? 18 Reasons and Solutions

Learn the 18 most common reasons for why a guy doesn't like you back and how to deal with them.

Ask The Experts

Have a dating or relationship question?
Visit Ask YourTango and let our experts and community answer.

Resources
How to find the right pro for you
10 Reasons Mental Health Pros Should Join YourTango Experts

10 Reasons Mental Health Pros Should Join YourTango Experts

YourTango Experts can help your business go from good to great.

10 Steps To Improve Your Coaching Business

Take your coaching business from mediocre to great in no time…

Frequently Asked Questions About YourTango Experts

Thinking of joining? Here's all the facts you need to know to make the most of your membership.

Getting Your Guy To Join You In A Therapy Or Coaching Session

So how can your get your strong, self-reliant, superman to talk to an Expert with you?

Therapist/Counselors: Who We Are & What We Do

What exactly does a therapist/counselor do and can they really help?

See more resources>
HOT STUFF!
FROM OUR PARTNERS