Not being clear and firm about your needs also stops you from respecting his needs. For example, a "needy" woman who is afraid to be clear about her needs may hold everything inside and act overly chipper and nice, inviting the man out places and offering to help him with things, etc., even though he has stated or implied that he wants space. This feels weird to him and can even appear psycho.
In a relationship, when asking to get your needs met, you must stick to your personal boundaries. For example, you don't tell a man you need sexual exclusivity and then sleep with him anyway. You must love yourself enough to actually take care of your real needs, like sexual exclusivity and male respect.
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Don't confuse neediness with needing things. You want him to know that you aren't a doormat and that you have serious needs in a relationship that must be met. He will find this very attractive if you state your needs without seeming like a demanding, huffy diva or a weakling who is afraid to speak up.
If he can see that you are a sweet, fun, loving, smart and sexy girl who is on a path to commitment and will settle for little else, he will treat you like a goddess and never call you needy. He will call you classy wife-material. He will feel honored to service your requests ... or he will respect you enough to not use you for sex or female companionship. The Secret To Better Relationships
In my eProgram for women, Inspire His Love for You, I help women discover their deep emotional needs in a relationship, and I give them the tools to feel more confident about sharing those needs with men. I also offer a step-by-step guide to follow when approaching tough talks with a man, like the commitment chat.
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