What To Do To Keep Your Man From Walking

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What To Do To Keep Your Man From Walking
Is he drifting? The fastest way to bring him back is to find peace of mind with or without him.

Wouldn’t you feel more pressure to figure out your feelings and decide if you want that relationship?  Wouldn’t you respect him more and see that he’s the kind of diplomatic, caring-yet-confident person that you might not want to lose?

To Keep Your Man, Face Your Fears Of Losing Him

You probably want to tell him 'goodbye.'  You probably dream of having the strength to call him out on his wish-washy behavior.  But your fears of losing him get in your way.  It's time to think about the worst case scenario so that you don't end up with a self-fulfulling prophecy.

What would happen to you if you ended up losing him?  Would you spiral into depression?  Would you experience anxiety about being alone?  It’s time to journal your feelings and fears.

Once you face the reasons why you hold onto him, you can start to unclench the fist that you have around this man.  Right now, he feels your white knuckles squeezing tight and it scares him. Not to mention, your tight hold on him isn’t helping you! 

You can’t control another person’s feelings, actions, words, etc.  You can’t control the future.  The more you try, the more angry, sad and hopeless you will feel!

You can control your own personal development.  You can control your self-confidence and level of happiness.  You can control the type of love life you have and the kinds of bad behaviors you aren’t willing to tolerate.

He Will Love You More The More You Love Yourself

An emotionally healthy man falls in love with a woman to the degree that she falls in love with herself.  When a woman has strong, vibrant, respectful, calm and grounded energy, an emotionally available man is drawn to her like a magnet. When a woman knows her boundaries and doesn't let a man's confusion penetrate and plummet her self-esteem, an emotionally available man feels safe getting closer to her.

Focusing on you and your life instead of on changing his feelings and behavior will also give a man the emotional space he needs to not feel smothered in a dating relationship.   When you worry less about accommodating him, you will give him a chance to straighten up on his own, without feeling like it's a demand from you. 

If you want to learn how to unclench your death grip and keep your man in love with you, please sign up for my Goddess Advice Newsletter.  My eLetters are choke-full of valuable insight and tools that will change your life and the way men treat you.

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Ms. Kristina Marchant

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Is the man you love emotionally distant?  Maybe he runs hot then cold, or maybe he has slowly been distancing himself over time?  If so, you are have something in common with the women who read and follow my blog, ConnectWithHisHeart.com  Come take a look and sign up there for my free mini-course: "Why Men Fall In & Out Of Love...  And What You Can Do"

 

 

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