What To Do If Your Man Says 'No' To Sex (2 of 2)
By Ms. Kristina Marchant. Posted on .
• If your man has a hilarious story from work, you are going to be happy to hear about it and let him know how charming and entertaining he is when he tells stories.
• If your man changed his tire all by himself, you are going to shower him with lustful "Ooooh"s and "Ahhhh"s, like he put a hot rod together in an hour.
• If your man drives by the market on his way home from work, you are going to call him twice a month or so to pick up milk or sugar, and then you are going to thank him with the warmest smile a damsel in distress could wear.
• If your man brushes by you in the kitchen and runs his hand (purposely) along the sway of your back, you are going to say, "MMMMMMmmm" and look at him like he is chocolate cake and you are PMS-ing.
You get the idea! Many women think this is a no brainer but I'm here to tell you that receiving is hard for women, especially for women who are not comfortable surrendering control. Receiving is about stopping whatever you are doing or dropping whatever mood you are it and opening to your man's gestures or subtle pleas for "man validation".
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When you build up a man, he will break his back to continue receiving your praise. He will feel like King of the Jungle and you will be his Jane. A man's job is to make us feel safe and secure through deep connection and unconditional love. Our job is to put him into the world feeling like the best man he can be!
If you are not putting him to work and letting him authentically make you feel safe, secure and unconditionally loved, then he, by default, isn't going to feel satisfied in the relationship. You just let him do his job (by surrendering into the role of Madame Receiver) and everything will fall into place.
So basically, men are complicated as individuals and easy to understand as a collective group. When you can talk to him as an individual and invite his complexities to meet your complexities via open, honest, loving, deep dialogue you will earn his trust and love. When you treat him as a member of the simple, uncomplicated male gender who all pretty much have the hardwiring of Ranger, you will earn his devotion and desire. Having a man's trust, love, devotion and desire equals endless passion! 5 Simple Actions That Reignite Passion
Follow the tips laid out in these articles and you'll feel empowered as a woman no matter how he responds sexually. Even if your man doesn't turn around and start wanting sex, you will still feel like a brand spankin' new woman. Why? You will be behaving, possibly for the first time in your life, like a female goddess who feels self-loving, open, honest, and truly feminine!
For more advice on how to renew his lagging sex drive, check out this video.
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