What To Do If Your Man Says 'No' To Sex (1 of 2)
You get the idea. The point is to start looking out after you so that you can start allowing all your feelings to surface. This will stop you from sabotaging your relationship with your man and from taking the hurt his cold shoulder has caused you and putting an even deeper wedge between you both.
2. Communicate Your Feelings to Him
Once you start taking care of yourself and facing the reality of HOW hurt you truly feel inside, it’s time to start sharing that hurt… productively!
The way you communicate your feelings to a man is soooo important. In my Love Advice Newsletter, I give you step by step advice on how to talk with a man about touchy subjects. For now, let me give you some basic tips. When you communicate your hurt (even anger) to a man allow yourself to share your female vulnerability with him.
The scarier you feel inside to say something to a man, the more likely you need to say it. Usually, the scariest things to say to him are not criticisms or judgments of him, they are revelations about your insecurities and needs.
Telling a man how much you hurt inside and how scared you are about no longer feeling beautiful, loveable, worth something as a woman or even as a human, is not easy. However, if you can share your raw truth with your man, and can do so from a place of openness and love, his cold feelings toward you will vanish.
Usually men who choose not to make love with their wives are ANGRY. Sometimes they are angry at her, sometimes at women in general, and sometimes at something else completely! Sharing your vulnerability with him vaporizes that anger. See, anger usually is just deep fear and love kills fear. The words you choose to use when you talk with your man, and the manner in which you communicate your feelings to him, can really influence his reaction to your words.
Look for Part 2 of this article (coming soon) where I explain exactly what to say to him and how to say it so that he feels comfortable opening up about his feelings. I’ll also give you one more thing you can do to really make him feel frisky and ready to pounce on ya. Hint: It’s all about reaching his heart through touching on his pride as a man.
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