What To Do If He Cheats Online

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What To Do If He Cheats Online
Even if he's having an outright affair, here's how to handle him and get your life back.

Take Your Life Back

If your man cheats online, it's time you put the focus back on your life and your happiness. Afterall, you have to focus on what you CAN control-- as much as you'd like to, you utlimately can't control him.  At a slow and easy pace, I want you to be kind with yourself and allow time for extra sleep and room for all your feelings to be felt.  Be calm and still in your heart throughout your days (in the mornings especially).  Remaining calm and still allows you to slow down enough to stop bottling your feelings and putting your anxiety into nonstop working and doing at the job and in the house.  It's important that you feel all your feelings right now and let them surface inside you.  Whatever you feel-- anger, sadness, loneliness... invite it all to emerge by not busying yourself too much.

Take time to do little things for yourself and pamper yourself when you can: Stop by the farmers' market on your way home and pick out some fresh fruit for yourself or some cheeses.  Get a manicure and a pedicure.  Go to coffees with friends and make a promise to yourself not to complain about your man for more than 15 minutes with them.  Read a touching and uplifting book. DATE YOURSELF.  This is a big one.  I want you to go on dates by yourself (no friends).  Go bowling, to the movies,to the park, to a fancy restaurant.  Make a point to do this once every week and make it something fun and recreational.

His wrongdoing is a chance for you to get to know yourself better and spend more time having a love affair with yourself.  You should even write yourself love letters.  You can put a stamp on one and mail it to yourself.  Or send yourself flowers.  This is a beautiful way to celebrate the fabulous woman you are. Refrain from purchasing expensive jewelry, etc. on his credit card or vengeful acts like that, because as delicious as that sounds to your ego, it's an act that's more about him than you.  And YOU are what counts right now-- the you that's separate from him.

When your man cheats online, it can shatter your self-esteem in ways you may not even be aware of.  Suddenly, you may be doubting your sex appeal or questioning your ability to be tender and loving.  Because all these insecurities bubble-up, it's best that you 'unplug' from him as much as you can (that also means no games, silent treatment, punishing him, ignoring him for results-- just mental and physical disengagement) and take care of yourself best you can.   The rest will work itself out over some time.  You may feel confident enough to leave after a few weeks or months of taking your life back or he may respond well to this new dignified, heartfelt, ladylike you who doesn't take any crap from a cheating man.

I wish you the best!  You are amazing!

 

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Ms. Kristina Marchant

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Is the man you love emotionally distant?  Maybe he runs hot then cold, or maybe he has slowly been distancing himself over time?  If so, you are have something in common with the women who read and follow my blog, ConnectWithHisHeart.com  Come take a look and sign up there for my free mini-course: "Why Men Fall In & Out Of Love...  And What You Can Do"

 

 

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