The New Year is approaching and there are so many new chances to connect with the man you love and have the relationship you deserve.
It’s time to put all the relationship mistakes you made in 2012 behind you and step into a new 365 days as a modern goddess who knows how to unleash the power of her heart over her man.
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But right now I know that this time of year can be tough.
The holidays bring up so many feelings. All these things we’ve been pushing down all year come surging to the surface with vengeance. Suddenly, there we are at the holiday dinner table seated around loved ones and our man and staring down at turkey, mashed potatoes and heaps of betrayal and insecurity.
If you are like so many heartbroken women this season, I don’t want you to spend next Christmas season feeling this way. The winter time is cozy and romantic and filled with colorful lights and glorious music—all of which you deserve to be sharing with him!
That is why I want to help you get to that place where you feel excited about the holidays and look forward to spending festive time with your man around the tree. I'm here to help you to guide him to a loving place that’s filled with emotional security and passionate connection.
First things first, let me give you some quick tips to help bring him closer immediately:
Holiday Love Tip 1# Stop Offering Him So Much Of Your Energy
When you give a man too much space in your thoughts, you end up feeling drained and paranoid. Suddenly you look and feel ragged around him and you're overanalyzing everything he says.
The best way to stop your brain from being like a broken record that only plays his tune is to surrender to your thoughts and stop fighting them.
Next time you feel your thoughts spiraling out of control and you find yourself obsessing over your relationship, become a witness to your mental chatter. Watch these thoughts like an outsider and recognize that they are parasitic.
Don’t indulge the thoughts but don’t fight against them either. Simply acknowlegde them and then get up and go do something soothing and loving for your soul. I call this a “soul want”.
A soul want allows you to escape your mind long enough to have a mini-break from obsessing over him. It also allows you to refocus your energy on where it should be—looking after you.
A soul want is something small like a trip to get a mani-pedi or a walk around the neighborhood. You’d be surprised how just getting up and getting out to take some fresh air into your lungs can really comfort your heart and ease your invasive thoughts.
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A soul wants helps take off the edge and can stop you from acting on obsessing thinking.
Holiday Love Tip #2 Sit On Your Hands