Staying grounded means nothing if you have put up emotional walls to men. Goddess energy is all about being fluid, and that means no walls. Emotional walls make you stiff and brittle—both physically and emotionally. They keep a man from knowing you and if he can’t know you, he can’t love you.
Until a man knows you, he will only love an idea of you. The problem with having a man love a fantasy of you is that sooner or later you will disappoint him—you are human not a fantasy woman. But when you show your whole self to him, something happens inside him and suddenly he loves you FOR your flaws. That’s when a real emotional connection takes place and you make him addicted to you.
How To Remove Emotional Walls
The best way to remove walls is to have personal boundaries. What will you absolutely not accept or tolerate in a relationship? When you know these things and stand up for yourself when the lines have been crosses, you start to trust yourself. When you trust yourself, you open up to others because you have faith that you can take care of yourself no matter what a man does. THIS equals goddess energy.
To share your boundaries with a man, make it very simple. Say, “I feel angry and I don’t want to feel like the man I love is flirting with other women.” And then don’t say another word. With an open heart, look at him and wait for his response. If he begins to backtrack, make excuses, tell you that he isn’t ready to be committed to you, etc. then say, “This is how I feel and I need to take care of myself right now so that I don’t get angrier.” And then go do something by yourself that makes you happy.
Practice Sharing Your Personal Boundaries Leading From Goddess Energy
Remember the 3 things that give a woman goddess energy:
Now go to the mirror and look at yourself in the mirror. Take a moment to feel your feet on the floor, connected to the earth, then open your heart and say to yourself (as if your reflection is a man):
“I know who I am and I won’t accept anything but love and respect, which I will also give to you.”
How did that feel? How did that look?
Were you frozen and numb in your body? Were you seeping with anger? Were you trying to minimalize the pain with laughter and a cynical tone? Were you crying with deep despair?
Say it again and this time try to be as soft, tender, warm and loving as possible. Still feel all the same feelings, but don’t try to hide them, just try to let these feelings turn into love. Try to smooth over the tension in your face and allow your eyes to meet your own eyes in a long and caring stare.
Imagine that you are “tenderizing” your reflection and seducing yourself with loving, open, inviting, hypnotic, all-trusting, all-giving goddess energy. DON’T reach out or try to soothe your reflection with a hand gesture. Stay grounded in your spot and don’t come toward your reflection. Send love without moving forward.