I know you like him and you feel like you may be ready to give him a life-long commitment, but are you really sure about that? Lots of times we meet a great guy and chase the commitment. But in reality, we often don’t know him long enough to be sure he’s “the one.”
If he was chasing you for a commitment, would you be the slightest bit hesitant? Probably. You would seriously weigh your options and think hard about how the relationship would work long-term, right?
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Now is the time to slow things down to be sure of him. Forget slowing things down not to scare him off. It’s not about him. It’s about you, and you have to stop giving him the power. If he is holding back and making you wonder about things, maybe he’s isn’t the man you want to be with for the rest of your life.
When you hold off on “wearing his ring”, you take the time to evaluate how the relationship makes you feel instead of worrying how it makes him feel. A good man will make you feel secure, confident, happy and peaceful. He won’t leave you lost in a pile of doubt. A good relationship adds to your life and doesn’t leave you saying, “if only he ____.”
Let Him Step Up To Plate For You
Wanting a man’s love can’t be handled like a job promotion. You can’t work hard to earn his heart. It doesn’t happen like that. In fact, the more you work hard when dating a man, the more he feels like you aren’t “expensive.”
Men want a woman with a high price-tag and your price is determined by your self-worth. When you're constantly trying to “seal the deal” with him or “close the gap” in the relationship, he can feel that you don’t have a sense of self-worth and are looking to define yourself by the relationship. That can weigh him down, making see you like a wet blanket.
When you have a lot of self-worth, you don’t rush into things and you don’t make someone a priority when they make you an option. A man wants to feel like he has to hunt you and earn you. Let him. Stop calling him, texting him, planning the dates, asking him if he’s okay, etc.
Letting him step forward and carry the load in the relationship doesn’t just make you more attractive, it makes you feel better about things. It allows you to sit back and enjoy the way a man celebrates you, instead of running around trying to celebrate him. And if he doesn’t step up to plate, it’s best you know now!
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