How To Get Him Back, By A Wife Who Remarried Her Ex


How To Get Him Back, By A Wife Who Remarried Her Ex
My mother's friend Bonnie, who remarried her first husband, offers tips to reigniting his love.

“Sit on your hands” and let the relationship reunite at its own pace.  Doing what feels like it carries the least resistance is how to get him back:  If he calls, you call him back.  If he asks you out, don’t resist the invitation or try to control the plans. If it feels affordable and makes you happy, get your hair done for him.  Be leisurely about things, going with the grain, and take the time to listen to your feelings.  Don’t rush to fix the problems, but be still and listen to what the problems have to tell you about your emotional needs and those of the relationship.

Bonnie and Will reunited because they both learned to let go—of insecurities, fears, “what ifs” and desires that didn’t serve them.  When you can stop trying to be the person you want to be, have the guy you want to have and be received by others the way you want to be received, you make room to be you, have the relationship that works for you and not place weight on how others see you.

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If you want to learn more about how to get him back in a way that feels natural for both of you, check out my eBook, Red Rose Woman:  The Enchantress Inside You.  Like the title, the book is florid, fun, sassy and light, but the message is still insightful.  The 27 enchantress secrets will show you how to stop doing the things that keep you emotionally hidden from him and show you how to connect with him in a way that allows a deep emotional connection to form.  That’s when love feels good, natural and safe.  Authentically creating a kind of warm, soft, yummy, comfortable, vulnerable and stress-free environment is the “how” of how to get him back.

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Is the man you love emotionally distant?  Maybe he runs hot then cold, or maybe he has slowly been distancing himself over time?  If so, you are have something in common with the women who read and follow my blog,  Come take a look and sign up there for my free mini-course: "Why Men Fall In & Out Of Love...  And What You Can Do"



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