Has your boyfriend recently told you he needs to take space from your relationship to think about things?
Though these words “I need space” are dreaded by lovers and partners everywhere and can leave one feeling confused, panicked and rejected…
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This isn’t necessarily a bad thing. In fact, it can actually be an opportunity to bring you both closer together.
Most of us already know that men are from Mars and that translates to them needing time by themselves to investigate and figure out their feelings and thoughts, however…
There are still things you can do when he says he needs his alone time that will help sway his decision in your favor.
Here’s the deal:
When a man takes space there are two things usually happening inside him:
- There are aspects of the relationship and/or his life that are making him doubt whether or not he wants to stay involved with you.
- There are aspects about you that he loves enough to make him say he needs space instead of say “Goodbye”
Number 2 is what you need to bank on while doing to following technique when he says he needs space.
It’s called the Love Him, Letter Him, Let Him Go technique:
See, there are things you can do to help leave an impression in his head that he won’t quickly forget.
Step 1 of the Technique: Get a handle on your feelings.
When you are used to spending a lot of time with a man and feel extremely emotionally connected to him and then he tells you he wants distance, a myriad of uncontrollable emotion can UNLEASH inside you.
You can feel panic and extremely anxiety. You can feel deep sadness and strong anger.
All these feelings are valid and healthy reactions to a loved one pulling back.
However, YOU MUST also love him and honor his need for space, too. And this is really hard to do when your feelings are so strong, you don’t know how to get them under check.
You want to beg him, question him, continue to call him. You want to maybe scream at him or cry fat tears of desperation and confusion while asking him, “Why?” over the phone.
If you are like me, you will want to drive to his house in the middle of the night in a state of shear panic.
Basically you might feel tempted to act in ways that you are not proud of.
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This is normal for a woman who is in touch with her feelings and in love with a man. It is normal to feel like you are fighting for your life and that you are being ripped from someone very important to your existence.
So don’t judge yourself for your feelings, thoughts, and proceeding actions when a man pulls back.