Go take a walk after you finish reading this article. Get up, leave your phone and go out and explore your neighborhood. What do you see that inspires you to want to be alive today? Tiny-yet-determined weeds sprouting up between cracks in the sidewalk? Rustling tree leaves and the fluttering petals of pretty flowers? Maybe there’s a mother strolling with her baby and the family dog?
While you walk, listen to the sounds around you. Feel the pavement (or dusty dirt road) collide with the soles of your shoes. Wave at a neighbor; swing into the local bakery and buy a delicious pastry. Pluck a few flowers from a public park to arrange on your dining table.
With every step you take, ask God (or the universe) to show you the answers to life and to give you the focus to pay attention to everything happening around you on the walk—especially the mini-miracles. I refer to anything that warms your heart as a mini-miracle.
When you come home, while you unlace your tennis shoes and wipe the sweat from your brow, ask yourself a question: What if I trained my mind to treat every moment in my life like this walk? What if every moment in life were just a leisurely-yet-brisk, sight-seeing stroll?
Would you still worry so much about the state of your love life or would you enjoy men more? Would you stay entangled in bad relationships or would you naturally (without struggle and forcing) seek out happy, stable, comforting relationships? Would you whine, complain and nag less? Would you exhaust energy on trying to be someone you aren't? Would you get angry at things outside your control? Would you focus on finding a man who makes you look good to others or a man’s whose company you actually like? Would you fight to win with men and other loved ones or would you naturally (again, I use that word) avoid drama and pain? Would you tune out the hurt and instead let present-moment-inspired LOVE pour inside your heart more often?
What men look for is exactly what women look for: someone too be their light, someone to be their perfect walking-around-the-neighborhood-of-life partner. Most men however are like most women: they think that it’s their partner’s job to inspire them to want to be happy—to throw open the doors, hands them their tennis shoes, encourage them to step outside and then proceed to give them the guided tour.
And aren’t you the same way and just as guilty? Aren’t you looking for some man to guide you to a happy life instead of doing so by yourself, for you!
When you change your mindset, open your heart, heighten your senses and live in the world more (whatever that means to you—being social or being alone in nature), you will find that a certain man will just happen along your path. And his path will be similar to yours. You both will walk together, commenting on the sights and sounds around you, and eventually, if you’re open-hearted and vulnerable to him, you both will hold hands as you walk the same road.