"I feel myself trying to be charming, and then I realize I’m obviously trying to be charming, and then I try to be even more charming to make up for the fake charm, and then I’ve basically turned into Liza Minnelli: I’m dancing in tights and sequins, begging you to love me. There’s a bowler and jazz hands and lots of teeth.” -- Gillian Flynn, Gone Girl
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If the title of this article, What Men Look For, actually inspired you to want to read it then maybe you too are showing a little too much teeth in your relationship: worrying too much about what a man wants instead of asking yourself if your relationship works for you.
What do men look for in a woman? While this can be a question of significance, what’s more significant is the question-- What do I want in life and out of love?
Do you want to be happy? Do you want to stop riding the emotional rollercoasters of bad relationships? Do you want life and love to be easybreezy and filled with laughter, calm, kindness and as little stress as possible?
Most of us want these things. The problem is that most of us don’t live our lives in ways that cultivate these things.
You are reading this article because you’re fighting for the love of a special man or are single and looking for a man. You aren’t satisfied and maybe a little desperate. You want to know the secrets to being irresistible; you want to arm yourself with the magical tools that will bring him back or snag you a brand new Mr. Amazing.
But let’s just forget about your motives for a second. Let’s forget that you are anxious and beyond eager to get this man back in your life or to find one. Instead let’s talk about having those things I mentioned earlier. After all, aren’t those things your real target? If you can have a happy life and achieve peace of mind, who really cares if the particular man is in your life, right?
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